Quote Originally Posted by mickcant View Post
Hi Jack,
Welcome to the forum.

This could be something some men wonder about with their children, this is easy for me to say but given what your wife told you about her ex raping her, if you love the child and of course none of this is her fault, can you not leave the past behind and enjoy your family?
You all have a lot to loose.
Mick.
But to her, you are her father, and if you're not her bio-father you're still her stepfather

If everything has been good since they've been in the UK, maybe you should stop looking at the past and into the future instead

If the past will not go away, maybe try and get help from someone like 'Relate', but like Mick has said you've got a lot to lose.

Problems with kids remind me of the Cat Stevens song, father to son ..

I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy,
To be calm when you've found something going on.
But take your time, think a lot,
Why, think of everything you've got.
For you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.