Filipino wife FLR (M) rejected

[grahamw48]

Might I suggest to anyone reading this thread, and who has just met a Filipina in similar circumstances...

You can show how much you love her BEFORE you marry her, by helping her to first of all sort out her immigration status !

Ignorance of the regulations is really no excuse these days. Everything is available online (and has been for many years). Google is your friend.

I'll get off my high horse now.

[rona]

It's not a man's fault no one should be rushed to get married, based on my experience!

Immigration Law should change! They should give people more time to get to know who they're marrying - especially couples that are in long distance relationships! Will never know the person until you live under the same roof!

[Michael Parnham]

Might I suggest to anyone reading this thread, and who has just met a Filipina in similar circumstances...

You can show how much you love her BEFORE you marry her, by helping her to first of all sort out her immigration status !

Ignorance of the regulations is really no excuse these days. Everything is available online (and has been for many years). Google is your friend.

I'll get off my high horse now.

Good point!

[matthau]

Might I suggest to anyone reading this thread, and who has just met a Filipina in similar circumstances...

You can show how much you love her BEFORE you marry her, by helping her to first of all sort out her immigration status !

Ignorance of the regulations is really no excuse these days. Everything is available online (and has been for many years). Google is your friend.

I'll get off my high horse now.

hi

Im kevin, the huband of Rona.

Trying to write this down whilst at work, cant be seen online so i'll write this quick.

We met in november 2011, just lost my mother a month before. She was ending a 2 yr relationship with a perverted husband. I dont have much money but meet salary criteria for the application.

We worried straight away about her visa, she shouldve stayed married to ex for a further 2 months but was too proud.

she didnt want to spend last of her money on a visa whilst dating someone, incase we didnt last. you never know do you...

I had up to meeting her not dealt with visas of any kind before. Never found myself in a relationship with a foreigner.

So through bad thinking i guess, in hindsight, i moved her in, put her on the council tax etc, and then a yr later, we knew we were the real deal but now it was 1 yr and a bit later, we worried big time abuot her being deported. I at no stage have had money for solitors, without her working and covering all the house bills its been a hard two yrs.

Instead we had a small wedding, thnking this would help, especially seeing how much time had passed. This we do no regret. it will help and you know this..


I wrote in the covering letter that we have a true honest relationship and that we need for her to go out and work so we can afford a belated honeymoon and simply live a life as my debts are mounting.

they replied with, words to the affect 'you have said you are wanting to travel, so go to the philipines to LIVE.

to live!!! this has never been mentioned or on the agenda!

so now we find ourselves in a position where she cant work, i have no money.

been together since 2011. madly inlove. want family and all the trimmings...

but to get a solicitor or flights out there will have to be a case of applying for credit cards or loans and increasing my debt.

If i take solicitor route and fail, then id have to pay that and filghts.

so the question is.

if i forget solicitor as it looks unlikely we'll win.

do i just buy her flights. but will she be accepted over in manila, to come back?

thats the big question.


high horse?

i think you'll agree our love is very real and strong. We just didnt play the game right.