Being in love with a Filipino Citizen - the real cost !

[kimmi]

thats an informative post Peter, and i am now thinking what happened with my fiance's savings..he he he

but still we're glad that i dont need to go through annulment and that almost save him a £..

[empott]

That's too extravagant, Peter! Are there really girls like that?
On my case, my husband sends me allowance but i told him to stop sending (unless i need the money so bad). For me, paying the remittance charge of WU is a waste of money. Its better that he saved it and just spend it when i am there.
When i was still single, i do shopping alot. My mom always say that i am a high maintenance daughter. Lol But after getting married and tried living alone, i now see & know the value of money. I don't feel right spending my husband's money while he is there working his off even in a freezing weather. It's just not reasonable to be spending his hard earned money over trivial things.
IMO, Filipinas should not take advantage of the generosity of their fiances and husbands. Practicality and helping each other is important for a harmonious relationship.

[Bridget]

That's too extravagant, Peter! Are there really girls like that? It's just not reasonable to be spending his hard earned money over trivial things.
IMO, Filipinas should not take advantage of the generosity of their fiances and husbands. Practicality and helping each other is important for a harmonious relationship.

I think Empott is right. Girls should not take advantage of the generosity of their fiance or husband. When I have a regular job, I do not have financial support from my fiance. I spend my own hard-earned money if I want to buy things for myself. As for the support for the girl`s family, I`ve read some stories in the internet about foreign boyfriend become the fiancial provider not only to his filipina girlfriend or fiancee but as extend to the girl`s family, I think that is not really nice except if its the guy initiates to do it to help his gf`s family, maybe if he is so rich and really do not know what to do to his money. In my situation, I know my fiance`s financial status, given that he have some investments and personal savings and lives on his own in his own house , as much as possible Im trying to help him to save. For instance when were having holidays together, I never asked him to book an expensive hotel or bring me to expensive restaurants as long as were happy together it does not matter even we stayed in not five star hotel. When I flew to UK, I chose the cheapest flight even it was a long journey, when he ask me what do I want for my birthday, I did not ask him anything, he sent me fresh 12 red roses which I did appreciate and made me so happy.
If he asked me to buy what I want whenever were walking around the shops in the city, I hardly get things for myself unless it is necessarry such as if I need a dress for special occassion, but aside from that Im happy to spend my own money. I think that this is really my nature that Im happy to work and earn to buy what I want for myself rather than to ask him to give me money to spend. But now, I have to give up my job abroad to sort out my visa application and to spend time with my family before going back to England, he offered me a monthly financial support which is just fair. Im happy, he help me to have internet access at home, he even paid the half of the amount of my laptop. I believed that he does not need to spend a million pesos to prove me his sincerity and love to me. He`s there thru thick and thin, giving me moral support when Im troubled and lift me up when Im down. His constant love and care is more important to me than any material things that money could buy. I do not care even I can not afford to buy expensive signature brands of bags, shoes, clothes and etc what I care most is we always have a great time chatting, playing games online everyday. Guess what, I always beat him in scrabble...
So Guyz not all filipinas are materialistic, infact we are very easy to please.. You do not need to spend a million to impress us, just treat us fairly and respect us as woman we are happy and we`ll be very proud of you.

[ervenescence]

Wheeww!..grabe ang hangin naman dito..LOLZ

My husband would never brag of what damage that it cost or how much money does he spent to me.
We both work together, I used my own money to sent some to my family, and buy some of my needs. I admit he shoulder most of the expenses here in the house because he earns more than me and we both agreed with that.


btw...nice post Bridget

[Bridget]

Wheeww!..grabe ang hangin naman dito..LOLZ

My husband would never brag of what damage that it cost or how much money does he spent to me.

Thats right. I agreeman should not count how much they spent for their woman at the end of the day if you are happy with your wife or fiancee every cents, pesos or pounds worth.


btw...nice post Bridget

Thanks ervenescence. Cheers to all smart and beautiful filipinas here!

[aposhark]

.....I do not care even I can not afford to buy expensive signature brands of bags, shoes, clothes and etc what I care most is we always have a great time chatting, playing games online everyday. Guess what, I always beat him in scrabble...
So Guyz not all filipinas are materialistic, infact we are very easy to please.. You do not need to spend a million to impress us, just treat us fairly and respect us as woman we are happy and we`ll be very proud of you.

Hi Bridget, I hope my future wife will think like you. We have spent our limited time in Phils just chatting and getting to know each other. She wouldn't even let me take her to the more costly places to eat, she was so thoughtful like that
I have no time for designer labels myself either and think the world has gone mad even contemplating spending ludicrous money on items to make themselves feel good. People have wardrobes full of clothes that they never use, but they are off to the shops to buy more.
Most people I grew up in the UK thought like this, that friendship and good conversation were the most important things, and not to let advertisers brainwash everyone.
My GF seemed to appreciate the acts of kindness, affection and warmth more than anything which bode well for the future in my eyes.

[keithAngel]

Hi Bridget, I hope my future wife will think like you. We have spent our limited time in Phils just chatting and getting to know each other. She wouldn't even let me take her to the more costly places to eat, she was so thoughtful like that
I have no time for designer labels myself either and think the world has gone mad even contemplating spending ludicrous money on items to make themselves feel good. People have wardrobes full of clothes that they never use, but they are off to the shops to buy more.
Most people I grew up in the UK thought like this, that friendship and good conversation were the most important things, and not to let advertisers brainwash everyone.
My GF seemed to appreciate the acts of kindness, affection and warmth more than anything which bode well for the future in my eyes.

At last a post that doesn't support consumerism from a man here. I have no intention of going down that road.

I work to live, owe nothing and do not believe Gucci is an antidote to years of poverty

When my Lady says she is not materialistic I believe her.

There is a strong tendency in the west to equate money with safety, how much is enough? our excess is mirrored back in the poverty of others, defending our lifestyle in a finite world means less for others

My idea is to spend half my time in the Phillis, earn less , consume less and share more, that's my idea of quality of life and I don't believe for a Minuit there are no ladies that could not appreciate that.

[joebloggs]

no designer labels either for me, not even the fake ones, and there are many fakes ones in Manc land ..

if your Lady says she is not materialistic, doesn't mean her family isn't, and i'm sure your lady will do and give all she can to them

i don't think anyone belives me at work, for years i've been telling them, soon, i'll be sat under a palm tree on a beach in Palawan, not a care or a worry in the world , no £1+ for a litre of petrol, no £110 a month poll tax, no £120 a month gas/electric bill, no congestion charge, no £500 month childcare bill, list goes on a on, just working and living to pay bills , but i'll get out of the rat race, b4 its too late

[aposhark]

I cannot tell anyone how to spend their money, they have the freedom to do that in any way they want.

What I do object to (now bearing in mind that my Filipina & I may be over so I could be a bit negative at the moment) is that buying ladies designer labels sends out all the wrong messages. Not to the lady who is receiving the gucci handbag for example, but for the others who see this and the continued distortion of life values that is created and stays in people's minds.

I'll give you an example that horrified me at the time and still rankles.

I was working in Vung Tau, Vietnam back in the early 80's when two American men went off for 2 day's R&R. When they came back I asked them how their break went and I could see from their wide smiles that things had gone very well for them.
I have worked with Americans for the best part of 25 years and have seen their generosity at first hand so many times.
Now this is a family forum so let me just say that they paid so over the odds for services that it wasn't a big surprise that 30 taxis arrived from Ho Chi Minh City in the following week with more services.

How these things change and damage people.
It just makes it so bad for everyone that follows.

So give them a hug and not a gucci, just my twopence worth.

If the next girl I meet wants to go to a designer label store or whinges about wanting this and that, I would ask her to go for a very long walk with me and quietly iron out some things.

I have met so many men married to Filipinas and they are mostly adamant about not "flashing the cash". They all seemed to avoid designer nonsense and valued the companionship more than anything.