Being in love with a Filipino Citizen - the real cost !

[cinmickey28]

Thanks Sir Pete! That is what I like in this forum aside that this is very helpful with the visa thing I have learned a lot of information and yes Sir Pete, I am convince “Ganyan kayo magmahal! Grabe!!!! You will really fight for love and that reminds me of my Darling. I will soon invite him to join in here.

[KeithD]

Holidays cost TWICE as much, as you are taking two.......so I've had to cut down to 3 countries a year

Driving lessons - £3000 if they are clever, £10,000 if they are not.......is the wife behind me?

My electric bill use to be £12 a week when on my own in a flat, now it's around £40/wk.......although that may have something to do with running computers 24/7 that would put NASA to shame

I never think of the money, I'd only spend it on something else if the missus wasn't here..........women, beer, drugs.....and waste the rest

[ginapeterb]

Keith excellent post as always, I have this mate of mine, his Filipino wife has been having driving lessons for 6 months, and guess what after spending £2000.00 on lessons she still has to ask

Honey which foot goes on the clutch, is it the left or right



Heavens help us....!!!

[eula mackay]

We already have 1 elephant in the house, so its good that we can spend our money on the one who is not an elephant, and as long as she stays size 10 she will get new clothes, the minute she gets above size 10, the clothes stop...

Thats fair di ba !

You sound like my husband

[ginapeterb]

Eula,

Am I ? well when I wake up in the morning, there is not a better sight than a slim curved size 10 going in the shower, the only problem for her is when Mr Octupus hands is around.

Women always complain about men grabbing their pwet, the women who suffer most with this is flight attendants, hehehehehe,

Size 10 is the limit, size 8 is nice, hahaha, but she will never be a size 8 I DONT THINK.

Nope size 10 is the limit, size 12, and she is in danger, size 14, and she will be going Vicky Belo for lipo surgery...hehehe

Hehehehe

[joebloggs]

rough cost for visa's, air tickets, phone bill, uni fees, helping her family, wedding in philippines over 7 years, has cost me at least £45k+


oh driving lessons and tests cost me £1,500 but she passed on friday !!!

[vbkelly]

Eula,

Am I ? well when I wake up in the morning, there is not a better sight than a slim curved size 10 going in the shower, the only problem for her is when Mr Octupus hands is around.

Women always complain about men grabbing their pwet, the women who suffer most with this is flight attendants, hehehehehe,

Size 10 is the limit, size 8 is nice, hahaha, but she will never be a size 8 I DONT THINK.

Nope size 10 is the limit, size 12, and she is in danger, size 14, and she will be going Vicky Belo for lipo surgery...hehehe

Hehehehe

hahahha you like my hubby aswell he said to me if i gain my size to 10 or 12 after i gave birth to my child, he gonna send me in the 118 118.com to have an exercise lol

[KeithD]

oh driving lessons and tests cost me £1,500 but she passed on friday !!!

Any chance she can take it on behalf of my missus?

[Gie]

is it really that expensive? driving lessons and test?

[Bridget]

We had holidays in Hong Kong on 3 occasions, we`ve been to Macau and China,he took me to the channel Islands in the UK, we always have weekend getaways when I was with him in England, he came to the Phils 3 times and I`ve been to the UK twice. I can`t imagine how much money my fiance had spent for four years,
but he said "its only money,I can earn it again anyway, and I would spend it to something else if you did n`t come to my life." He`s wonderful.
I think,In this kind of relationship, man mostly sacrificed their pockets, but filipina sacrificed their time for their love ones back home.
Can you give a thought for a second of how it is sad for your filipina wife or fiancee to leave her family to be with you there in the UK.
So for most filipinas it is just their happiness to send money or presents to their love -ones back home, because that is one way for her to share her love to them.
Can you imagine, her feelings when she just arrived to your country, when you left her alone at home as you have to go to work and she have to bear the loneliness for 8 hours while you are at work. She have no friends and relatives. She is adjusting herself to everything.
I can imagine, some are crying, but they never tell their husband or fiance because she doesnt want him to feel guilty of taking her away from her country.
For few months, she can`t get a job as fiancee visa not allowed to work, it is not very easy to adjust especially to those who got used to work. Not to mentioned the profession she`ve gave up to make the relationships works, even she did not recieved enough from that job ,but she had spent years and a lot of effort and been happy with that job with her closest friends around.
I think this is really two-way, its one way and another both did sacrificed to get to the goal to have someone to love to and beloved. Both needs have been met, you both happy to each other and willing to fight for the love who cares who earn who spend, the most important is you are happy now.
Are you?

[KeithD]

My wife is trying to hit the jackpot in the Euro Lottery, she says the €30 Million will go some way to pay off her fruit & fish bill

[ginapeterb]

Bridget,

I think this is really two-way, its one way and another both did sacrificed to get to the goal to have someone to love to and beloved. B

I absolutely agree with you, you made a very nice post, its certainly in line with my thoughts, and I have nothing further to add to what you said, because its all true.

[Bridget]

Bridget,



I absolutely agree with you, you made a very nice post, its certainly in line with my thoughts, and I have nothing further to add to what you said, because its all true.

Thanks Pete. You`ve put a good topic. Cheers...

[joebloggs]

Any chance she can take it on behalf of my missus?

while mw wife was driving for a year on her internatoinl license, she drove more than 8000 miles, and not 1 problem, also she had must have been 30-40 lessons.

i wasn't going to say this, as i will be dead if she ever reads this, she has never failed an exam in her life, until she took her practical driving test, took her 7 times.. , shes not told her mom, becuase shes too embarrassed it took her so many times...

well most of it was just bad luck, worse she had was 2 majors, mostly just 1 major that cost her a fail, some of her 1 fails was

stuck behind a tractor, yes a farmer in Manchester !!!, he indicated to her to overtake him, but she was coming to a turning in a road and took too long, so she got a major.

another time for going too slow , i know your suppose to go show the examiner you can handle the car near to the speed limit, but how can you judge this one. slow for how long,??

another time, turning right into a one way street, she turned from the left side of the road, and not the right side, cost her a fail.

another time, at a mini round about, she stopped at it to let a guy at the junction to her right go, she signalled him to go, he didnt move, about 10 seconds later she moved on to the around about , and so did he at the same time, and got a fail for it.

but come monday, all was going good til she came a round about, and some lunatic speeding nearly crashed into her, the examiner told her it wasn't her fault, and to take a break for a few mins, knee knocking , she carried on and at the end, the examiner told her she passed
so respect to her for not quitting, a fearless filipina .. proud she didn't , now she can go and paint the gutters

[joebloggs]

Bridget,



I absolutely agree with you, you made a very nice post, its certainly in line with my thoughts, and I have nothing further to add to what you said, because its all true.

yes your right there, when i use to moan at the money we were spending, more like 'wasting' , she would say 'its only money ' , well don't things change whne i take most of her wages off her to pay the bills

anyway, it will be pay back time, when she finds a fulltime job, she be earning alot more than me, and it will be her money i'll be spending , i'll remind her 'its only money'

[Pepe n Pilar]

What a lenghty post GinapeterB. This line made me chuckle.
My good friend John, who is in his 70's and has lived in the Phils for about 10 years leaned over and said, "You know Pete, I do hope that girl is an orphan for his sake"

[Pepe n Pilar]

Keith excellent post as always, I have this mate of mine, his Filipino wife has been having driving lessons for 6 months, and guess what after spending £2000.00 on lessons she still has to ask

Honey which foot goes on the clutch, is it the left or right



Heavens help us....!!!

[Bridget]

[ginapeterb]

An englishman trying to teach a Filipina how to drive.

1. Honey I want you to start the vehicle and back the vehicle out and place it in the parking space to your immediate left.

Answer:


2. Honey the left pedal is the clutch, the middle pedal is the brake, the right pedal is the accelerator.


3. Now honey I want you to start the vehicle and dont do anything else.

Honey I Had not really wanted to cover reversing the vehicle at this point, I only asked you to start the vehicle.

4. Ok now the engine is running, I want you to check your mirrors for allround observation.

Honey the mirrors are for all round observation, not for you to fix your make up.

5. Ok now I would want you to use the turn signal indicator and inform other road users which way they will expect you to manouever the vehicle.

Honey please there is no need to put on the windscreen wipers, its fine today and not raining.

6. Ok honey now you have indicated you will reverse left, and you have engaged reverse gear, that is good, now slowly raise the clutch and engage the clutch plate, you will hear the sound of the engine dip in response to your engaging the gearbox.

Honey this vehicle is not designed by the manufacturer to snorkel under water so why did you drive down the river bank and into the river.

7. Honey thank God we have RAC AUTOCLUB, or that reversing experience would have been very expensive now I want you to put the gear into 1st and slowly ease the clutch out, to let us pull out.

I know honey you cannot see your foot coming out, you are not supposed to see it, you are supposed to feel it.

8. Ok now you have pulled away, keep checking your mirrors for good all round observation.

What do you mean you cannot see through the windscreen ?

9. Honey I would like you to keep between the 2 white lines on your side of the road, steer the vehicle straight and do not veer into oncoming traffic.

Honey you are training to drive a car, not to be a Submarine commander.

10. No honey this vehicle is not set up to drive into rivers, its because you keep turning the steering wheel to the nearside of the road, wherever you turn it, the car will go.

"you dont think I am a very good teacher - ahah ok, so are you saying you would not want me to teach you ?

11. You hate me ! ah ok, and dont want to speak to me...hmmmmm paradise.

Honey you told me you had 14 hours lessons in the Philippines, just exactly what did your instructor cover ?

[joebloggs]

yes, my wife told me she could drive when she first came to the uk, pleaded with me to let her get the car out of the backgarden, after telling me she could easily do it, within a few mins the passenger side door was rammed again the gate post .. and after pleading with me for days, saying she could do it this time, i let her try again, same again, car rammed against the post, oh it is difficult to get the car out of the garden,,, anyway thats when i made her take 30+ lessons

[andypaul]

My wife is trying to hit the jackpot in the Euro Lottery, she says the €30 Million will go some way to pay off her fruit & fish bill

So thats a weeks bill sorted out if you win the jackpot

[aromulus]

yes, my wife told me she could drive when she first came to the uk, pleaded with me to let her get the car out of the backgarden, after telling me she could easily do it, within a few mins the passenger side door was rammed again the gate post .. and after pleading with me for days, saying she could do it this time, i let her try again, same again, car rammed against the post, oh it is difficult to get the car out of the garden,,, anyway thats when i made her take 30+ lessons

Get rid of the gate post...........

Problem solved.........

my 10% commission now please, before the bailiffs come around your house...

[andypaul]

Get rid of the gate post...........

Problem solved.........

my 10% commission now please, before the bailiffs come around your house...

Yeah Joe what a crazy thing to do having a gate post in your garden

[empott]

Empott i named you because your post is reasonable, you said you felt that you did not want to spend your husbands money cos he is out in the cold working hard, hmmm sounds to me like you have a nice hubby dear, he wont mind spending his money on his little flower, cos he thinks you are the love of his life....so if he wants to pamper you...let him do it, its his way of making you happy, its not about the money or how much he has, its about what he does with it, money is only a method of exchange in a modern society, you dont have to have lots of it to make another happy, sometimes it might just be a bunch of roses, chocolates, or a nice top for you, or something to say I love you.

Yeah, he is indeed a good man with a good heart, Peter. He is a good husband and i know that he just want to make me happy. I do very much appreciate that. But those material things is not that important if we r far from each other. All i want is to be with him either here or in UK.

Oh btw, when i wrote that post, Peter, I was talking in general and just writing my insight and experience. I wasn't referring to Gina. I read from ur other posts how much u love ur wife and I can see from that post that u were talking in jest. And from ur reply to Tom, i know that u were not referring to ur wife. But if I offended her in any way, i apologize, Peter. I don't mean no harm.

Its based on a compilation of experiences, some of my own, some of one or two of my best pals who have Filipino wives of some years, and various others that have written to me, I would say there are about 20 or 30 experiences here rolled into one peice of written work, why do you ask ?

[bluegirl]

For me, it all depends on the situation and the family. Not all filipinas who married to a foreigner husband are having a better life I know some pinays that they regret their decision but because they do not want to get embarass to their family back home they just bear the life she have here in the UK.
One pinays, told me her story; she met the guy thru the internet, the guy came to the Phils and propose to her, and because she was desperately wants to get out of the country, she took the opportunity. She hold the promised of the man that he is going to give him a better life. The man helped her family to move to an apartment because they just used to live in small village, the guy bought his mother all the basic appliances, such TV, washing Machine, Fridge, and so on. So she was very please on what the man shown to her family. They got married in the Phils , spent over 50,000 pesos for the wedding and etc. Then she applied for a spouse visa, and finally arrived here. It was a big shock, when she saw where the guy lives, she have to live in the house together with the sick parents of his husband and his 2 grown up children She end up being a caregiver to the oldies. The hubby have 2 children from his previous women which is he didnt tell her, the man drunks every night. She bear all the hardships for few months, then finally she gets the job part time.The hubby lost his job, got fired, so in the end she is the one who works for a living for her hubby , 2 step children and the parents-inlaw. Eventually she get a regular job. The bad side is, the hubby always drain her pocket to buy his beers and cigarettes. On weekends the man has to go to the pub to meet his friends and she believes he is also messing around with cheap bar girls.How sad. She show me her photographs before she left Phls. and obviously she suffered a lot.I asked her , how ols is she? I was shock with her reply, she is just 25 yrs old,but she looks like 40 yrs old. Her hubby obviously didnt look after her.

[KeithD]

I was shock with her reply, she is just 25 yrs old,but she looks like 40 yrs old. Her hubby obviously didn't look after her.

I'm not aware of any scientific evidence of people aging due to what there hubby gets up to!

[ginapeterb]

Bluegirl.

Sorry about your friend, but I have to say:

Not all filipinas who married to a foreigner husband are having a better life

This is what happens, when young filipinas accept proposals from a foreigner just so that they can escape their life in the Philippines, your story whilst being sad, is just one example of someone in the world who ended up being stuck in a bummer of a relationship.

Your story is just one example, it is counteracted by many thousands of relationships that are the opposite, on the whole, they come for a better life, or else what is the point of coming ?

Your freind is like so many young Pakistani and Indian girls who get trafficked into arranged marriages, with promises of this and that, and then end up in a 3 bedroom semi in Southall London looking after the mans ageing parents and feeding multiple children whilst spending all day house cleaning.

I am afraid its not unusual, and your freind is one of many who find themselves in that situation, I wonder though, your freind is not married to an ethnic minority person is she, because it sounds like it.. ageing parents in the house, grown up children ?

[joebloggs]

Get rid of the gate post...........

Problem solved.........

my 10% commission now please, before the bailiffs come around your house...

the gate post is attached to a 6ft brick walll

as for the bailiffs, i phoned the number on the threating letter, and they want me to send proof, eg utility bill. council tax bill to show that i live at the address, well them, i'm not doing their job for them, surely its up to them to have evidence where this person lives, they can check the phone book, electroial reg, credit agency, who ever, i've lived at the house for 40 years, and that person they are looking for has never lived or been at the house, i'm thinking of writing to them, telling them he has never lived there, but if they want evidence i live there, they can come at any reasonable time and i will show it them, but i'm not sending it to them, they can come and get off their and look at it , cheeky little .

oh and as their customer is a court, they have the power to use a lock smith, even if there is no one in the house and take what they like, i'm sure thats breaking and entering, trespassing.. , looks like i'll be taking someone else to a small claims court

[bigtombowski]

u don't want to get into fights with bailiffs
unless u live in belfast -- this is the one city in UK where bailiffs don't exist ...
lol
this is one area in which the paramiliataries still rule
bahala na
lol

[andypaul]

u don't want to get into fights with bailiffs
unless u live in belfast -- this is the one city in UK where bailiffs don't exist ...
lol
this is one area in which the paramiliataries still rule
bahala na
lol

I thought the paramiliateries were the balilff/debt collectors over there