Can things get much worse?

[ginapeterb]

Well, you know that I am still married but my wife left me? That was back in February, and meeting my filipino gf Mae has been the only good thing that has happened since.

My wife has recently been going through a tough time. I think she suffers very badly from depression. She took a couple of weeks off. and I even bought her a ticket to visit her family in Thailand.

She got back yesterday, and all was fine. I helped her sort out an apointment with our doctor, get another absence note from work, sort out some minor problems with her car. Then, at lunchtime, she changed completely. Started leaving nasty messages and sending texts. Said she would make the divorce expensive and she would make sure Mae could never come to the UK. All a load of bluff because she has no power to do any of those things.

However, she can delay the sale of my apartment, which is crippling me financially, because she is co-owner. That will hurt.

But worse, she rang my parents and told them about Mae. I had not told them because after marrying two Thai women I though it was too soon to worry them. Needless to say my Mum over reacted and rang me in tears. They seem determined to stop me too!

Nothing will dent my love for Mae, and people trying to stop me will simply make me more determined.

But the truth is I feel very alone now, and the way forward looks like a lot of hard work.

So, can things get much worse? (And I haven't even mentioned my first wife's financial problems or my son's difficult behaviour . . ).

My style is to be open about these things, so thanks for reading this far!

Ian

Ian let me offer you some support mate, I have to say your story is the same as mine about 4 years ago, I was living with my ex wife when she did the same to me, she told me that Gina was never coming to UK and that she would do everything possible to stop that whoring bar girl from coming over.

Hahahaha we laugh at it now, stand your ground mate, we will all support you, youre not alone, dont worry about her threats, she cannot do a f.....thing mate.

They all threaten to take you to the cleaners, remember the movie "War of the Roses" starring Danny DEVITO, and Michael Douglas, and Kathleen Turner, what does the lawyer tell Oliver Rose "Listen, there are lots of appartments, houses, there others to go to"

I am not suggesting you give your Thai wife the appartments, ( Get you share mate) and just asking (How did you ever come to put your appartment in your Thai Wifes name) bad mistake Ian, they will always want their share the minute you want to divorce them.

Little Tip for you Ian, dont please mate for your own sake agree in the heat of the moment to sign it away to her, you will regret it, I did that in my house, and I have regretted it ever since.

These lawyers who come down for the country court, suggest that you give your ex wife the house to prevent her from claiming maintenance against your income, I signed mine away as I have a good income, it was to prevent her from making claims on my income for the rest of my life.

Dont do it, its a mistake, get your fair share of the proceeds and put it down on a new place for you and Mae....

I am sure you are smart now after 2 wives, to get a good deal for yourself, and guess what.

My ex wife caused havoc with my Mum, she would phone her all the time and tell her that I was in love with a bar girl from the Philippines, she used to tell my Mum, she was a whore, and came from Angeles City, and worked in a go go bar, and that she had diseases, hell hath no fury than a p.... offf wife about to be divorced.

Ian I really used to hate her calling my Mum and upsetting her, she used to pester them for hours, my mum used to cry and call me also, she told me that she is not happy about my Filipino GF, you have to be strong and tell your Mum the situation, anyway, she is leaving you right ?

I used to feel for my Mum, she did not understand all the time what was happening, but slowly she came to accept the situation, then when Gina was in UK, I took her to meet my Mum and Dad, and my Mum cuddled Gina, and welcome her to the family, but she told me, ( I like Gina very much, she is so nice - not like the other one)

Watch out also for your Thai wife deciding to write to the British Embassy Manila, (hope she is not British but guess she is now) and she will write a letter to the Entry Clearance Manager suggesting Mae is a bar girl or she is a gold digger, it happend to me mate, and caused 4 months of heartache, while my case was investigated, Keith will remember this, watch out for this one Ian.

Gina was issued a visa in June of 2004, and the visa was cancelled without reason, we had to wait for 9 months while my case was investigated by the embassy, finally the visa was reinstated when they found there was nothing in my ex wifes allegations.

She alledged that my future wife was a bar girl, and that I was still married, also she stated in her letter that I was wanted by Interpol for fraud, and mortgage fraud.

You name it she did it, do not under estimate a p....off soon to be ex wife,
I just want you to know Ian I am rooting for you mate, and wishing you well with your girl in Phils, go for it, and stand your ground.