just research,research and research just like others did here and me because i`ve been there in your situation like asking questions and people here are quite tired of answering same questions.juts press the search button and type fiancee or spousal visa they`re quite same in requirements and dont worry about chat logs ang high technology my bf now my hubby not reall into technology like internet and stuff but we`ve submitted our bundles and bundles of letter the difference between you and me was i kept all the receipts and we took load of photos when he visited me here because from that time I discovered this site whereas you now just recently.so take my advice its never too late just keep browsing goodluck to you and to your man!