hello, everyone!

[h0ney_c]

hahahaha!!! you made me laugh, jamz! i hope it will work for me, too!!!
anyway, thank you so much for your advice. i really appreciate it.

[h0ney_c]

thank you so much, sis kimmi. you have been really helpful. i hope to be able to discuss all these things with him and make him understand how a hold on to my values.

the reason why i asked for your advice is that i am also afraid that he'll get discouraged and disappointed if i tell him about my worries without me asking for other people's opinion first as i am sure, most of the members here have been through this stage in their LDRs.

i hope that when i discuss these things with my BF, he won't think that i am being too traditional, conservative and overly "pakipot".... it's just that he is my first boyfriend and that he is also older than me and he had been in to several relationships before... so that's where my worries are coming from...

thank you so much, sis kimmi for your advice!

[vbkelly]

Hello, everyone! I am new here. I heard that this forum is really informative and the members are really friendly and very good in giving advices.

I have been seeing my brit BF online for three months now. -And next month, he'll come to see me in my hometown. We have been talking about it since October an I was surprised that yesterday, he called me and told me that he has already booked his flight. We'll be spending two weeks together. I am excited and happy to see him in person... However, I just feel nervous and afraid that something wrong will happen... I'm sure the Filipina members here can relate to what I am saying. Traditionally, Filipinas preserve their virginity until they get married and I am proud to say that I am one of those. I am just afraid that in two weeks, "something" will happen...

What will I do and what should I tell my boyfriend prior to meeting him? Is it "normal" for BF and GF in LDR to actually do "it" when they see each other for the first time? Sorry to sound so thick about it... I just don't know how am I going to deal with it...

Thanks in advance

hi honey welcome to the forum,what im gonna say is don't give up your virginity to him specially you don't know yet if his intention to you is real,if he ask you about that just tell him if your love and intention is real to me why you don't marry me first then you can have it.don't surrender our bandila sis lol goodluck honey

[h0ney_c]

thank you, vbkelly! i'll keep that in mind.

i have to go to sleep now... thank you so much to all those who have given me their advices! I really appreciate it. this forum has really been helpful. thanks to y'all friendly members!!!

good night

[somebody]

Posted earlier but i think the missus is stealing all the bandwith watching pinoy comdeies on youtube.
Like the brit blokes have said tell him if he doesn't know he cant help you or know where he stands. Also many brits would be shoocked on the first date as it were to get so far on the first or a long time after that date if you think of his trip over as several. ignore the films just as in phil most of the movies dont reflect normal life nor do they in the uk or the us.
trust me if you talk to him slowly bringing on the subject to him he will understand if he doesn't well he is not for you.

[Missyalice]

Welcome To The Forum Honey!

[h0ney_c]

thanks for the warm welcome, missyallice!!!

[ca143]

hello HONEY C,
I knw how u excited as of thise time but nervous as well...am right?My frndly advice to u tell him as early as now about the things that u worry tell him dont expect to much from u when u spend time together. I knw that ur bf understand what u mean.
Share u my experience first time i met my fiancee,we start chat aug. then dec. same year we met in person when he planning to visit me in Philippines i tell him with full of courage that dont expect to much from me coz as a filipina we treat that sex is a sacred thing and he understand me about that things as well, so he booked a condotel with two bedroom for sure nothing happen,he he he. we stay there for 5 days,then we travelled several places in our country everytime we booked a hotel always 2 single bed.But HONEY C to much pakipot as well is not very good because until now we already married but we still sleept in 2 single bed.(nakakalungkot) but still ok as long as we LOVE and CARE each other very much.

[h0ney_c]

Hi, ca143!

Thank you for sharing with me your first-hand experience on meeting your bf, (now your hubby) the first time. You actually gave me an idea on how I can formulate a strategy so as to make sure that nothing will happen when we are together for 2 weeks. I just do hope that I will be able to persuade him to agree with me.

Well, i guess the members here are right in saying that if he does not agree and back off and cancel his bookings to see me in December, it only means one thing. I hope to be able to bring this up to him this week... I just can't find the courage to tell him directly that i cannot give it to him when he come to see me. I really am excited to see him, but I also don't want him to expect a lot from me, that it will come to a point where in i will give in and lose my values.

Thank you so much!

[bigtombowski]

well,honeyc, as with our PM's to each other, please do tell us how it goes

tom

[h0ney_c]

tom, do you want me to tell them everything about it? just kidding! hehehe

[bigtombowski]

hehehehe

that may be a problem hahahahaha lol

[h0ney_c]

don't worry, tom i'll keep my mouth zipped!!! lol

[bigtombowski]

i got a joke here about zipped, but i'll let keith make it! lol

[h0ney_c]

what about that zipped joke?

[bigtombowski]

heheheheheheheeeee

i think the advice to u here from everyone is "keep zipped" hehehehe

[h0ney_c]

wahehehehehehe....

yes, i will!!!

[bigtombowski]

gooooood! lol

keep zipped til u are ready then unzip... oops., u cant unzip a wedding dress right?

lol

[h0ney_c]

lol

if it does not have a zipper, definitely i can't! hahahahaha

I really thank all the people here who have offered me their advices.

[bigtombowski]

you are welcome