help! i'll meet my BF in December (happy&afraid)

[h0ney_c]

Hello, everyone! I am new here. I heard that this forum is really informative and the members are really friendly and very good in giving advices.

I have been seeing my brit BF online for three months now. -And next month, he'll come to see me in my hometown. We have been talking about it since October and I was surprised that yesterday, he called me and told me that he has already booked his flight. We'll be spending two weeks together. I am excited and happy to see him in person... However, I just feel nervous and afraid that something wrong will happen... I'm sure the Filipina members here can relate to what I am saying. Traditionally, Filipinas preserve their virginity until they get married and I am proud to say that I am one of those. I am just afraid that in two weeks, "something" will happen...

What will I do and what should I tell my boyfriend prior to meeting him? Is it "normal" for BF and GF in LDR to actually do "it" when they see each other for the first time? Sorry to sound so thick about it... I just don't know how am I going to deal with it...

Thanks in advance
(sorry i had to post this twice....)

[kimmi]

hi sis honey, i already post my reply on ur other post..

[h0ney_c]

yes, I just read it. Thank you, sis kimmi. I re-posted it here because I thought I made a mistake in mentioning my problem in the "Introduce yourself" thread.

Thanks again.

[KeithD]

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=4914

[h0ney_c]

sorry, mr. administrator for posting it twice. i thought i made a mistake when i included my problem in the "Introduce Your self" thread. sorry......

[bornatbirth]

honey,do u love ur bf?

ask him if he loves u!

if he does he will respect anything u have to say...so tell him ur fears.

my gf is the same as u and tells me the same so i tell her i never expect anything to happen,anytime and i will wait for her as long as it takes,until u talk about it,u will never know what hes thinking.i know u wont want to raise the subject but u will just worry more so be brave and tell ur fears!

[h0ney_c]

thank you so much mr. bornatbirth. i do love my bf and we both love each other. i will take heed of your advice, i just seem not to find the courage to open it up with him. i hope i can tell him all my fears and worries as early as possible. thanks

[Bridget]

Hi Honey,
Welcome to the forum.
I think its best to tell your BF now about your fears and see whats his reaction to this, if he really loves and respect you he will understand you. But if he change his mind of not coming over because you are not yet ready for that thing, well as they always say that a lot of men still believe in the value of married first before honeymoon.

[h0ney_c]

Thanks, Bridget. I just do hope that I'll find the courage to open this up with my bf. I do hope and pray that even if i tell him that i'm not yet ready for that thing, he would back out and cancel all his flights to see me. I honestly would love to see him in person.... it's just that i am totally new to this for he is my first bf... i just don't know HOW am i going to tell it to him that partly I am happy to see him and partly i am afraid. I don't want him to expect for such "thing" to happen when we meet. I just do hope he will understand me...

Thanks again!

[bigtombowski]

honey
...
if u don't want to have sex till marriage, just tell ur BF, because u want him to have the proper expectations

if he is emotionally strong, he will be happy to cater to your wishes

and he will realise it's a privelege for him when u 2 get married together

[h0ney_c]

thank you so much, tom for your advice. i'll take heed of it. i hope to have the courage to tell all my fears and worries to him before he come and see me.

by the way, i have read your posts... sorry to hear what had happened to you and mar. (sorry to remind you about it, but as you said, you have moved on... pretty quickly) but, who knows? maybe it's just part of the test of your relationship... and in the end, you will eventually end up together...

sorry, but i think i'm not in the position to say these things! i am totally new to relationships so what do i know about it? sorry, tom...

thanks for your advice! i do appreciate it

[bigtombowski]

hehe
you're welcome

yeh, coz u see honey, the guy u are with will probably know that filipinas are conservative, but he may not know if u want to "do it" when u are together, so the best thing is just be direct -- in a nice way tell him "we can do __ but we CAN'T do __"

he will understand

and as for me ...
(this is the edited bit)
I have learnt that I am with someone who is a BETTER person than me ... who is so full of love
Thanks to my marivic!

thank u for ur words honey!

t

[bigtombowski]

lol
well, i took bisaya lessons for months but my teacher is now too busy with his business (balikbayon boxes) lol!

but i still try

and ... ummm when i speak to "my gwapa light" marivic ... i learn a little bit more hehe

[bigtombowski]

i guarantee you hehe
did u read the PM i sent to u?

tom

[ginapeterb]

Hmmmm Lucky your BF, christmas is coming for him, most men want to be first ...if they can get the chance of it, but...its not always the way, I told my wife I wanted to be first...she said

GAGU !!!

[h0ney_c]

thanks, mr. ginapeterb!

so when my bf will say that, too i will also tell him "GAGO!!!" lol

ta

[somebody]

Wear a chasity belt

[ervenescence]

get a padlock and throw away the key...

[h0ney_c]

hahahahaha!!! thanks, erve!

[KeithD]

get a padlock and throw away the key...

Is that how you keep hubby in the cupboard?

[somebody]

Is that how you keep hubby in the cupboard?

Why is Evre worried he might come out of the closet

[aug06_2006]

Hello honey, welcome to this site! Be ready for big big trouble with your bf hehehe just kidding!

[KeithD]

Be ready for big big trouble with your bf hehehe just kidding!

Are we talking inches?

[h0ney_c]

oh, no!!!! mr. admin and aug06_2006, you guys got me sooooooo afraid!!!!!

[bigtombowski]

i'll keep that in mind, somebody. i'll buy one next week!!!!

chastity belt?

u can get good deals here on those from a Uk store called "ann summers"

[bigtombowski]

hehe

why not check "ann summers" online

(hehe)

[IanB]

I think it is completely normal to feel scared. This is not a situation where people have had hundreds of years to develop a "right way" of doing things. Mae and I have already discussed this, even though it may be months before we meet. We are both scared but looking forward to meeting. As for sex, well we will just see how it goes on the day but there will be no pressure from me - we have plenty of time and hopefully the rest of our lives together.

Ian

[h0ney_c]

Thanks, Mr IanB for the insight. I will tell you all guys what will be the outcome when I open all my worries and fears to my bf... i hope to be able to tell everything to him within this week...

Ta

[bigtombowski]

tommi, you're crazy!!!! loko-loko!!! i don't know what's the bisaya term for loko-loko! lol

hmmm maybe gago!?

i understand loko loko, coz it probably comes from "loco" the spanish word for crazy

ok
how about

"buangbuang" ... (i know that "buang" means stupid, but buangbuang means crazy i think)! lol

[bigtombowski]

i learn a lot of filpino words from many sources hehe

i learned "gaga" from mar for sure hehehehehe lol