help! i'll meet my BF in December (happy&afraid)

[bigtombowski]

wow
cooool
where do u live?
and people here just speak "chavvy"

[bigtombowski]

o gosh, i hear its pretty dangerous there

(Says the pot to the kettle -- i am from belfast)

[bigtombowski]

yeh
i understand
coz i live in belfast ... the zamboanga of UK

[bigtombowski]

funny hehe

[bigtombowski]

it's fine, i think the admin will add u to his buddies list na! hehe

[bigtombowski]

sure, PM me anytime mate and i'll be there to chat with u
i can relate to ur issue

tom

[h0ney_c]

thank you so much, newfound friend!

[bigtombowski]

you're welcome

[h0ney_c]

see you again, tomorrow! i have to sleep now

this forum had been of great help to me!

[bigtombowski]

wonderful

[Bridget]

Hi Honey_C,
You just met your BF online and you know him for only 3 months.
I understand your fears of having a pre-marital sex with him.
I think the best is have a chat with him.
Maybe start the conversation by asking him what are his expectations of coming here.
Ask him, about the plan, the holidays, the sleeping arrangements, if you are going to sleep in one room, how many beds. You have all the right to tell him your fears and have all the right to say NO if you are not happy with the arrangements. Remember that in any relationship honesty is the best policy. Do not worry, if he will get upset or you may lose him. In fact telling him your fears will make him feel that you fully trust him.
If you are not yet ready, true love waits. By telling him your worries and your beliefs you are just showing him that you are a smart girl, but Im not saying that those girls who have sex with their BF are not smart, if that is their choice and happy to do it they just being honest to themselves as well, everybody is different.
No one can make a choice for you or can make a decision for you. It is your life and what you do today you will be the one who will suffer or will be happy with the consequences in the future.
I said you are smart in a sense that you will not do anything against your principles just to please him. Love should be a two way street, in everything you do or share with each other must be for the happiness and fullfillment of both side.
If you do have trust yourself I mean having self control, you have nothing to worry even if he says," Ok no problem, even we do not make love, but we will share one bedroom". Just make sure do not get yourself drunk if you do sleep in one bedroom. Alcohol tends to get you warm and also avoid foods contains oyster sauce and spicy stuffs as they say those make you horny,,,
And also avoid to wear seductive clothes, because it will be to much torture for your BF seeing you in your sexy clothes but he can`t have you or even touch you.
Sex is really just a mirror for us- a mirror that reflects the state of our mind, our heart and our soul.
Goodluck and enjoy your holiday.

[bigtombowski]

so bridget, i should bring some spicy oyster sauce with me to the phils in 5 weeks from now then ha?

[bigtombowski]

HoneyC, seriously, i really agree with all Ate Bridge has said as u know

and ...my friend Honey_C, just u send me the PM and i will reply as best i can
ur friend


tom

[Bridget]

HoneyC, seriously, i really agree with all Ate Bridge has said as u know
tom

Thanks Tommi.

[bigtombowski]

ur welcome lady and ... umm ate bridge, now i gotta find some spicy oyster food in Dumaguete lol heheheheheheeeeee
jokeeee!

[h0ney_c]

thank you so much, bridget! i'll do everything that you tell me. i really appreciate it. it feels good to have found a friend who's like an older sister, too... so profound and so mature...

Ingat!

[bigtombowski]

hey honey_c, check my PM to u
i never sleep hehe

[bigtombowski]

i stay up especially to help my friends bwahahahaha!

no ... i sleep fine, it's just i got a night job and my GF is in your time zone so it helps for me to be up at this time

did my pm help u?

ako tulog na

tom

[h0ney_c]

yes, it did! thank you so much, tommi

[bigtombowski]

yay great to hear
chat to u later (ur time), tomorrow (my time)
ingat
goodnight!

tom

[h0ney_c]

goodnight, tom! ta

[Bridget]

Youre welcome Honey_c. I wish you all the best.

[h0ney_c]

Thank you so much, Bridget! I find your new post really helpful. I'll keep everything in mind.

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=5496

Thanks for your street smart advices!!! I really feel good to have found this forum. -And you're one of the many people like sis kimmi and tommi and the rest (you know who you are) who really make this forum work best and serve its purpose! Thanks for all your help!

[Bridget]

Youre welcome Honey_c.
goodluck to you

[ginapeterb]

Bridget makes some good points, hahahaha, about the seductive clothing, so young lady honey c, just be careful about wearing the sexy underwear, boys cannot resist that.

Avoid wearing a Thong, and if their is 2 beds, make it clear that one bed is his, one bed is yours, but really hahahahahaha I cannot stop laughing about all of the comments on this thread, because who are we all trying to fool here.

If you are a virgin, wow, I am honoured to meet you Maam on this forum, may I congratulate you, I never met one before anywhere ? some of the guys say, they actually married a virgin, and they were the first to make love to the newly married wife.

WOWOWEE !!!

That is something to be proud of for the lady in question, in my view there is nothing wrong with protecting your virtue until after you marry if that is your belief and desire.

I hope your Boyfriend is a mature man, if so, the older men tend to be more considerate, take me for example, if I was dating a young virgin, personally I would be very happy to wait until such times as she is comfortable, I would be considerate and get to know her, and if its her desire to wait until such times as she is comofortable, then if the relationship is one that is leading to marriage, then that would be fine with me, actually I would be quite flattered that my future wife is a virgin.

I would personally be very impressed with that situation, so dont worry little flower, if your BF is worth it, he will wait, and also if he is mature enough for you, he will know how to handle the situation with love care and attention.

In this situation, just give him a cuddle...now and then, but tell him when the time is right..he will get everything that is expected.

Then in this way, he will have no expectations before he comes to the Philippines and has no preconceptions about how it will be, sometimes this makes him feel better, and he is not highly stressed about it.

Just enjoy each others company, and do some sight seeing, go to Boracay or something, that normally does the trick.

[Bridget]

Bridget makes some good points, hahahaha, about the seductive clothing, so young lady honey c, just be careful about wearing the sexy underwear, boys cannot resist that

. kuya Pete Im glad I made you laugh, good morning


Honey_c

Or best tell the boyfriend that you have a red river to put him off..

[gracia143]

I told my wife I wanted to be first...she said

GAGU !!!



Play it by ear hehe!

Seriously, I am sure your bloke will understand and will wait for the right time if he really do love you.

[bigtombowski]

if u "play it by ear" u can't get pregnant that way

[kimmi]

how come son?lol..

[bigtombowski]

did ur school not have those rumours that if u "do it in the ear" it's the safest sex of all?

it's one of those childish urban myths! lol