Quote Originally Posted by Harry T View Post
Jack, I feel for you, I really do, and I can sense you are in bits over this, and you really Love your Wife.

Basically, I will briefly reiterate what I said before. If you are happy with what you have, then stay as you are. If she CANNOT give you what you need and crave for (Her Love) not just a quick jump into bed, when SHE feels she needs to keep you sweet, then you have to walk away, not wait 20 years like I did.

Listen, it's hard. Life is never easy, it's about making decisions day after day, week after week, year after year. There are plenty women out there that would give you what you need and want (Love). Indeed they would give their right (or left) arm for what your wife has. Obviously you seem to have talked this over before, but still you are NOT happy. YES, by all means give it one last go, and dont beat yourself up by thinking you haven't tried, dont feel Low self esteem.

I'm envious that you are in a position to be able to start all over again. I myself, would give anything to be able to do that. I left it too late for myself to begin again in the way that I want to. Age and income dictate what I am able to achieve. I would hate for you to be in the position that I find myself in, and that's because I realised 20 years too late that I needed to make a hard decision.

If you want to PM me, feel free to do so. But good luck whatever you decide, Oh, and one last bit of advice: It's you and you alone who has to decide this, and don't worry about what other people may or may not think, YOUR happiness is the most important thing in all of this.

By the way guys, thank you for all the nice comments you made on my previous post on this topic. I'm only trying to help Jack86 sort his situation out, as I believe right now he is feeling a little desperate over something that is NOT his fault.
Thanks Harry your kind words mean alot.

I know she is lucky to have me and she knows that also, like I replied to Ryanputi maybe she's not that touchy feely type of person as she tells me she's not.

She reminds me of my mother.. also she was the same with my father and they were married 51 years, maybe I have to man up instead of being a wimp and really get this out in the open but I know what's she's like as she once said if you want a divorce I will sign the papers (that's what was said after I had the paternity test done) that was because she knew how angry I was and was willing to do this for me if I insisted.

Anyway I will have a long hard think on what the best step forward is but like you said my happiness has to come first, that is something I am starting to realise.

Thanks once again,

Jack...