Hi again,

I don't know whether everyone knows the story behind all this from past posts but just to refresh to all it was my wife telling me she had been raped by an ex a week previous to me meeting her the very first time.

Sorry to go over old ground but she kept this from me for 26 months before and after we married and even on her arrival in UK.

I only found out 17 months after she arrived in UK from a gut instinct I had that little girl wasn't mine hence the paternity test which proved right.

This is damm hard as I am being pulled one way and then the other, I am naturally a no nonsense guy who will kick things into touch if I feel its not right.

Can I just say If she was a British girl then I would have not thought twice of ending this relationship.

I fear for my stepdaughters future if she went back to the Phils but also I want to punish my wife for the hurt she has done to me and whether if I can sort this sad mess out just for happiness as an outcome also if everything she told me is the truth then I am one cruel cold hearted b*****d.

I just hope whatever decision is finally made that I do right by all thank you...