I used to run a forum, and all I can say is NEVER AGAIN!!!! The clash of personalities, the people who think it's not just a forum but their personal social club, the people who think arguing and winning on the internet actually means something - then a member goes and posts porn, I give them a warning and all hell breaks loose, members throwing insults, members leaving in support of the "front bottom poster", then former members who just can't really leave and keep coming back using new usernames to cause trouble......

Point is, I know what it's like. Never ever again.

What I used to say to members though, that it was a chat forum where anything goes, but in the end posting is a privilege not a right, everyone is a guest in our houses and if they overstep any marks, they are asked to leave.

If it's worth anything - maybe, maybe not - I didn't like postings from the Daily Mail. I have a love hate relationship with that rag, and people on here ought to have a hard think about what they regard the publication as, because they definitely do not like Filipinos. If certain editors at the Daily Mail had their way, Filipinos would be targets of hate in our hospitals and society.

Did I dislike Ded though - of course not. He seemed ok enough, just a bit angry. Did he overstep any marks? Well if I was running the forum, I would be concerned about some postings that they could come under hate laws, sorry but sometimes we have to be careful and aware of what we say - keep some things just for real friends and not in a forum which anyone could access. Whether I agreed or not with him is irrelevant to this.

If you also believe a smattering (Not as many as they might like to believe) of former members on "that other forum",which they claim was set up due to a disagreement on this one, then some claim they left pretty much due to presumably Ded and some others agreeing with him/not challenging him.

This brings me back to the personal experience - they form their own forum but can't help keeping on mentioning this one and spying on this one, slagging off members as they see fit?

So if all this is correct, do you keep an influence which MAYBE caused other members to leave, or do you keep that influence as he is part of the furniture, his posts keep the place going and it would be different without him?

Not a call I'd like to make.

Others though mentioning the name change, I'm embarrassed to mention the name to anyone. If anyone asks, I'm browsing Ashley Madison.