Almost One Year!

[Steve up North]

Welcome to the forum Steve.

If you want an honest opinion, I think you'll be in for a lot of stress and unhappiness in the future, from what I've just read.

Family is the number one priority in the Philippines culture. Everything revolves around family.

Out of all of those thousands of young ladies available to you, you have chosen a lady who is married... in a country with no divorce, and who also has children ? You say he 'unfortunately' keeps in touch with his children. I think that is an unfortunate turn of phrase when referring to a man who appears to be attending to his responsibilities.

I believe you will be permanently dogged by all of this 'baggage'... lovely as the young lady probably is.

Wow! Thanks for the wonderful welcome!

I think it's best you keep your honest opinions to yourself especially as I did not ask for them. If this is the normal honest opinions of members on here I can see I am in the wrong place as I have never read so much negativity in one forum post in my life.

Do I avoid her because she is married and has 2 wonderful daughters? Sorry but I am not such a hypocrite as I have 2 children from a previous marriage myself, to me that does not mean she or her daughters are "baggage".

Not sure what you mean by young? Are you implying I should look for someone much younger than myself, maybe half my age or less? Sorry but I was looking for a "woman" close to my own age. I have no problem with 2 people having a very big age gap between them as long as they are together for the right reasons, but that is not for me.

I guess you are right when you say family is the number one priority in the Philippines, maybe the family's should be teaching that to all the men over there who leave their family's for other women. Yes he is attending to his responsibilities now in the way of school fees but not of his own free will.

I am more than aware there is no divorce over there which is why we have to try for annulment, although stressful not easy and costly it is no reason why we should not try like so many others have in the past. And one final note, he has agreed to annulment as he realizes he was the one who left and committed adultery and would like to marry the woman he ran away with.

I thought this forum was more like a community and thought it might be a nice way for my other half to make the odd acquaintance with people from her own country once she is here, but I don't think it is the right place where you are ostracized for being not young married and with children. I am sure she would love being called "BAGGAGE".

[grahamw48]

And breathe.

Yes, I can see you doing really well in the Philippines with a temper like that and the propensity for making so many assumptions.

Good luck.