The scammers that ask for money pretty much early on are the easy ones to detect. It's the clever ones who put you in a false sense of security by not asking for money, need to be kept an eye on. My ex didn't ask for money until over two years. The rest is history.

If I knew what I know now, six years ago, I probably would have chickened out. I'm part of the furniture now, and I actually don't regret dating abroad. It's been fun.