It does get to you. My wife`s family nobody works and when the s**t hits the fan regarding one of probably thirty different relatives in the good old Fil then the first thing that happens is she gets a txt asking for some help from the money tree that they all think grows in our garden.
Her brother died last year and she went straight to the bank and borrowed a four figure sum to pay for the funeral. At least she used some of the money to buy a small plot of burial land and so I guess the next time it may not be so expensive as there is already a resting place.
It makes me sad to see a lot of her salary every month being used to pay off this loan and various other hospital bills on top of the regular monthly allowance she sends them for provisions. But as she says to me who else will do it? I cant let my parents/relatives die.......Part of the joys of being married to a Filipina I guess. Unless you are lucky enough to be married to one whose family also has a money tree growing in their garden. You just have to bite your tongue when you want to say something about it because you will only make it worse than it already is.