Originally Posted by
Terpe
There's some truth in what you say. When I was earning a good amount I could afford to help but limited my contributions for education, medical emergencies and funerals.
I always tried to avoid anything else, but in honesty didn't always deny my conscience.
Since being retired and also since living here, we've made our position clear. It has sadly resulted in almost all of my wife's family being cut-off from us for one reason or another.
In terms of education help, it's only there for those who I feel have the capability, motivation and character to see it through and help their siblings in like.
For Medical help I only support payment of hospital bills that I've pre-approved and for medication that I personally source and supply.
Funerals are a tricky one. I always decide who of us , or both, will attend the burial and exactly which part of the funeral we will support and how much.
It might sound tough from a western frame of reference, but it's just common sense really given the culture and tradition here for the vast majority.
My bro-in-law would be considered to be living in poverty. However, not that he didn't get opportunities.
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