Family crisis...and I'm not there to help.

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There will be lots of crisis when you are not there , just by talking and listening helps, that's all you can do,
I would not send any flowers at all, just wait and listen and maybe you may send something at a later date,
Be prepared for lots of these things to happen when your partner is here with you too.
You get use to this by just taking a step back and again just be there to offer advice and comfort when needed

Thanks for that. I suppose you are right. There is not much else I can do at this time.