Lust, love, just good friends, I hate you

[stevewool]

Life as we know it very really happens the way we would like it to be does it.
Something comes along and spoils it or makes it better.
Take me for instant, Married three times so i have a little experience or no experience as some may say or i just like wedding cake my belly would say too.
Wife 1.
Lust , lust and more lust, and before i new what i was doing out popped a baby, right better get married and get a council house and work and go into debt and have more kids, more debt even more DEBT.
Hang about what happened to the love part "O yes" i was so young and stupid it was just lust, then just friends then i hate you and now its "just the children's mother".
Wife 2.
LUST, LUST,LUSTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT, No kids together, a little love sometimes from me and lots from her, debt from her old life more debt from my old life joined together makes life crap.
Something went wrong then , there seems to be HATE before the good friends , well life went on but there was lots of plans being made for a quick exit from her side i must admit, now that was a shock ,I HATE YOU , funny after awhile there was lust again only for a few weeks then it was back to i hate you and now we are long distant friends Plus she is the "Children's mother, dont ask its another long story".
Wife 3.
I have grown up, i am a nice person, sincere , trusting and wanting someone to love and to be loved too, sharing what we have and what we would like to have together.
Yes there was and still is lust, there is love and there is friendship and its all for the same person too, how long will all this last, who knows forever i hope but that will be down to myself and my wife who also has a voice in all these matters.
Its not until you have grown up and started to act properly in life that you realize that things was not meant to happen, and somethings was meant to happen too , you are meant to learn from your mistakes and i know i have.
Happy life everyone

[grahamw48]

I should have married my (Jamaican/English) fiancee back in the 1980s, but I didn't, and she was killed in an accident before I could.

So, that took me up to getting on for 40, loving life, clubbing every night of the week, etc.

Met the ex (Filipina) in Manila... 'pen-pal', though she wasn't actually the original pen-pal, but somebody I met in a coffee bar.
Married for lust and pity... being honest.

The marriage went well, on the whole. Problem again was lust. Mine, which distracted me (though I was actually faithful throughout our marriage) and fuelled feelings of disatisfaction sometimes, which must have affected our relationship in a negative way.

Then there was her cheating. The truth and extent of that, I'll never know, but I can't tolerate it at all, ever.

I had some great years with her, and we have a wonderful son.

My second (current marriage), well, so far so good.

I was looking for a sweet, natural girl from the province, but bright, and experienced in changing adult diapers.

[stevewool]

I should have married my (Jamaican/English) fiancee back in the 1980s, but I didn't, and she was killed in an accident before I could.

So, that took me up to getting on for 40, loving life, clubbing every night of the week, etc.

Met the ex (Filipina) in Manila... 'pen-pal', though she wasn't actually the original pen-pal, but somebody I met in a coffee bar.
Married for lust and pity... being honest.

The marriage went well, on the whole. Problem again was lust. Mine, which distracted me (though I was actually faithful throughout our marriage) and fuelled feelings of disatisfaction sometimes, which must have affected our relationship in a negative way.

Then there was her cheating. The truth and extent of that, I'll never know, but I can't tolerate it at all, ever.

I had some great years with her, and we have a wonderful son.

My second (current marriage), well, so far so good.

I was looking for a sweet, natural girl from the province, but bright, and experienced in changing adult diapers.

Its funny how we can look back and see where we went wrong and sometimes our partners went wrong too, but we move on for the best,
Dont know how Mercedes may act with the bigger diapers though

[Slip]

I was with the same 2 girls most off my teenage years and well into my twenties. Would finish with one then get back with the other (sometimes they would overlap )Had a few short term relationships in my thirties.. Finally settled down with Harlene a few years back

[grahamw48]

Its funny how we can look back and see where we went wrong and sometimes our partners went wrong too, but we move on for the best,
Dont know how Mercedes may act with the bigger diapers though

She worked as a live-in 'carer' for an elderly lady for many years before I relieved her of the job (temporarily).

[Longweekend]

Up till I was 39 I worked overseas so single life suited me. Met my wife in Manila and we have been married for 21 years, eventually returned to the UK in 2005 as a family of 5. Now have 2 at uni and one doing her A levels. Fingers crossed and if we both keep working at it we should see each other out...

[grahamw48]

That's really nice to hear of a positive outcome and an enduring relationship. Congratulations.

[Longweekend]

Thanks Graham, as you know it's not all 'plain sailing' but I believe if you are both prepared to work on the relationship it will work, and to be truthful I would not swop mine for anyone....

[stevewool]

Thanks Graham, as you know it's not all 'plain sailing' but I believe if you are both prepared to work on the relationship it will work, and to be truthful I would not swop mine for anyone....

I find that when there are rough seas ahead its all down to me.
I like to have a longer say even when my brain is telling my mouth to stay shut

[Longweekend]

I learnt a long time ago to 'go with the flow'...

[grahamw48]

I've just got better at saying 'yes dear' .

[Trefor]

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