Quote Originally Posted by Terpe View Post
We all have our own frame of reference when it comes to compassion and how best to help or not.

We do what we do. It's a reasonable subject for discussion but not a subject that warrants critisism on how folks determine their own path.

Here's a real life decision I'll need to decide upon. I've already decided based on the facts I know.

But how would others react:-

Our nephew was supported in his education by me. His results were always brilliant. He maintained a scholarship level, which you may or may not know is very tough to do given the high levels of grade needed.

Just to say I personally neither like or get on well with this guy.

He want to be a doctor. He has taken his entrance exam with a result at 98%

So, he is asking can we support him in his studies by paying for his tuition. He himself will support his family and his allowance via his current employment.

Given that it's not a real hardship to support what would you do ?
Seeing as you have already started down the road then see it through. I do not wish to criticise folks but we all see plenty of good causes amongst our Fils families and I guess if it no real hardship to you then keep going for it. Problems will only start for you and your own relationship when your money begins to run out. You are just a vehicle for them. Like a hire car you are there to be used and abused. Nephews, Neices, brothers, sisters, cousins. So many worthy causes.
I often wondered to myself what kind of person you need to be to live in the Fil as the husband of a Filipina and I think you need to be a bit of a B #####D because if you are a nice guy they will just chew you up and spit you out. That is why I can never contemplate living there.
From my own personal experience of helping out I would say dont bother helping the men help the girls instead because they are more mature and likely to sincerly appreciate what you do.