They cant afford it,its just the realities of their situation,she is a nurse,he works 3 low pay jobs,they pay the mortgage on a very nice house in ottawa,luckily 3 members of the family live and work abroad but its really taking its toll,she is having to cash in some sort of canadian pension policy?I didnt dwell on their finances,or question,the community they are in were all supportive but its heart or head,she is thinking with her heart,he is her father.