Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
I dont blame you,no way jose would i pay his medical bills if he is an adult self-harming,you already gave him advice which is STOP,if he cant heed it let him go wherever he is going in the afterlife,his choice.
I agree 100% but that still does not stop the pressure the inlaws will often apply to the other half without the husband even having a clue...They will apply the "Utang na loob" principles relentlessly.

The "wife" will usually have to accept the husbands decision but privately she will be in utter turmoil as it`s in their blood to assist their family in need.. Ive seen Filipina`s take second jobs or secret high interest loans so that they can fund family assistance..
At times they will secretly send the money by hook or by crook and the old man will never even know.