I have asked her not to have our boy baptised... and she knew my views on this and religion generally, before we were married. If she goes ahead with it 'behind my back', so be it.

(She is not a churchgoer anyway).

As for the rest of her family, well, they are lovely god-fearing people and I feel there is no need for me to upset them in any way.

If anyone in the Philippines asks me for my opinion on religious beliefs, I will happily give it, in a sensitive, diplomatic way... because I'm not a fool as well as an Atheist.

My eldest (half-Filipino) son has never seen the inside of a church, or been brain-washed by the god-squad. He is none the worse for it, and has close friends from several different religions and ethnic groups.