Hi Cecille, and thanks for the tips. I really am overwhelmed by the amount of information and help provided here - USEFUL information and help! And I'm still trying to wade through it all!
I foolishly believed that my fiancee and I were nearing the end of the process, and had prepared well - until I discovered this site yesterday! Without this site, I know now that we would have definitely had the application turned down, not least because we would have failed to provide a definite date and venue for the wedding ceremony... Now at least we have 2 weeks to prepare more thoroughly and increase our chances of success. It's really comforting and reassuring to know that such a site exists - that we may have problems, but someone is listening
Ivor