Thanks for all your kind words, Jan is sounding a little better this morning i myself am feeling how shall i say a little calmer, being so far away makes the feeling of helplessness hard to take.
The issue for Jan is whats making it so much more difficult to accept is that its her second ectopic pregnancy, no more fallopian tubes but iv told her try not to beat herself up about it, luckily she has a good hard working family (Farmers) who are supporting her not rich in money terms, but they have something much more valuable in that they have lots of love and affection for each other.. once again thanks guys.