Hi Nigel! Hey that's my name!haha
I will be marrying a Filipina soon, and yes, I'll be supporting her family as much as I can like you do. I must say I also fear something going wrong with the family, someone needing an operation perhaps like what happened to you.
I've been aware for a long time that Filipino families depend on one another to help each other out, they are not independant like we are, and they will consider you a member of their family now. I understand that running into financial difficulty can be very worrying, you find yourself lying awake at night worrying about it, you might have your head in your hands wondering how your going to get on top of things..
You mentioned that some of the family members are quite wealthy, are they giving money to help? If the answer is no then I think you are perfectly entitled to grumble about that!
I wonder how old you are, and do you have a mortgage on a property? I've run up a bit of debt, but I'm optimistic that my flat will be worth a lot more than what I payed for it in years to come.
If your on the verge of bankruptcy then I guess you'll have to say no, when I have to say no to people I say things like "there's only so much I can spend...the money isn't there.."
If it feels bad when you have to say no, but your not a never ending pot of money, none of us are! And it doesn't mean you don't love your girlfriend no more..
You might do well to talk to a financial adviser from your bank about this, I do it now and then, they just juggle my accounts around and make my outgoings smaller, it might make you feel more positive about the whole thing.
Let's not forget that the pleasure our filipina's give us is worth more than any amount of money!I'm aware this could happen to me, but I still want to marry the little minx!
