family expectations / inteference

[hilda_danao]

We have very close family ties in Philippines. It's our culture that's not common to British people, i just observed. We cannot see ourselves eating nice foods and buying nice things we can afford here in UK while our family in Phil are maybe eating just rice and salted shrimp paste. We felt guilty about it. That for me is the main reason why we are helping our family. I don't agree that we send money to Philippines because it is our obligation to our parents/family. I also believe that it is not right to spoil them, sending them money that's way too much from what they really need especially when we also have our own family here in UK. We also have to teach them to stand on their own feet.

[andypaul]

We have very close family ties in Philippines. It's our culture that's not common to British people, i just observed. We cannot see ourselves eating nice foods and buying nice things we can afford here in UK while our family in Phil are maybe eating just rice and salted shrimp paste. We felt guilty about it. That for me is the main reason why we are helping our family. I don't agree that we send money to Philippines because it is our obligation to our parents/family. I also believe that it is not right to spoil them, sending them money that's way too much from what they really need especially when we also have our own family here in UK. We also have to teach them to stand on their own feet.

When you say Brits don't have close family ties thats only recently if you went back before the 2nd world war and even more so before the first world war. Many of my family would have been working away from home at some point and sending the money home. But things change in the name of progress.

If the Phill nations progress carries on and people become more affluent which should happen as the worlds hub revolves from the west and alantic to asia it will die out in many families. In fact as the westen countires become far poorer you will see brits say those phills they are so unfamily orientated.