Its just a story

[tomm]

I found out that the man started to sort out the wedding but when talking to his gf she said she is not sure anymore and would not talk to him for a few days to sort things out, the man is lost he,s no longer a boy he,s a man and wants to marry his gf but you cant make someone do something they dont wanna do, he sat down and decided to make one more stand he had already told her he loves her many times and done many things to prove it, see the only thing he had done wrong was to wait to long to ask her to marry him, one more text and if no reply the paper work is ripped up he still has a trip booked to manila and i,am sure here go, but will it be to get married or to mend his broken hart, YOU DECIDE

You... I mean he ... has got to go for it mate. Is the trip booked yet?

[rosstrtco]

You... I mean he ... has got to go for it mate. Is the trip booked yet?

the trip will be booked but as for go for it, how do you change another person,s feelings and should you ? if you have given everything what else can you give

[tomm]

Does she know he's going? What is her reaction? Is this just a tampo because you have dragged your heals? Maybe she wants to see how serious you really are?

Be positive and decisive... don't forget filipinas expect a man to be head of the house.

[rosstrtco]

tampo? i dont think so but she has a life style she is scared to change for marrage but to carry on in a long distance relationship is,nt an option, in a way it sounds like when i say jump you jump but its not as if were talking about a rock and a hard place its more like your old life style without this man or everythig a man can give from the big things to the small and thats where the man thinks ok then f##k it, not that easy when you love someone i surpose

[tomm]

hmmm... now this is getting complicated In the original story... she wanted to wed but the man was dragging his heals.. now it's changed? You question maybe another man in one of your posts.... has her routine changed?

I think maybe you are trying to read between the lines to much. Also, there's more to life than a wedding... what happens after that?... do you have a serious plan for the future that is achievable? Is she happy with it?

[rosstrtco]

hmmm... now this is getting complicated In the original story... she wanted to wed but the man was dragging his heals.. now it's changed? You question maybe another man in one of your posts.... has her routine changed?

I think maybe you are trying to read between the lines to much. Also, there's more to life than a wedding... what happens after that?... do you have a serious plan for the future that is achievable? Is she happy with it?

a five year plan 1st year pay as much off the morgage as i can 2nd do the house up 3rd pay the money off for doing up the house 4th & 5th year earn as much as poss then off to the philippines living off the rent for my house, in this time we get married have kids or the gf can study get a job or just care for me i,am easy thers alot to do but with the two of us working as a team we would have a fantastic life

[tomm]

Just curious... how long ago did you ask her to marry you and she say yes?

Personally... I'd be on the first flight I could make with some definite plans about a wedding and what happens after. Anyone can send a text.... it's not hard or expensive. Get on a plane and fly half way round the world... she will know you mean business.

Good luck