To all SINGLE Filipina Ladies

[tomm]

Ladies, I think what the boss said is right

Here's my take.

Arguing: A good relationship needs a good foundation. Arguing and 'trying to hold it together' at the start is not a good foundation. ...time to run!

Money: Any man who is serious will have an idea of how much he will have to spend to pull it off. Some guys will be sailing pretty close to the wind but that doesn't mean they can't support you. Being careful with money shouldn't be taken as a sign he is broke... maybe he's just being sensible which should be seen as a quality. However, if he's struggling financially to make the first trip to PI... he ain't got a hope of funding the rest.

Doesn't want to visit: Yes, he should be gagging to get to you... and you should feel the same. Also, a relationship naturally has to move forward or it will starve. However, you do need to consider his work commitments. Don't assume he can drop everything, fly half way round the world, so you can leap into his arms like the scene in Armageddon! Personally, I would ask right at the start with all the other questions... but tactfully.. like, 'if he met a girl he liked, would he visit her and when?'. If he answers 2/3 months for example, hold him to it, then if he starts making excuses .... time to run!

Good luck to you all

[silver13]

Take the good advice from the boss, he is definitely right Arguing isn't healthy especially in a long distance relationship. If he is always going on money this is not so good, later on, that will be the cause of failure in the relationship.

Yeah i believe that a man should have the initiative to visit you in PI, but if he says he can't visit you at early stage, give him a chance because some guys although they can afford to visit you or cantravel immediately, they just want to test you. Anyway he if truly up to you, he will travel to visit you sooner, this is from my own experience

Good luck to all.

[steadyfornow]

Ladies, I think what the boss said is right

Here's my take.

Arguing: A good relationship needs a good foundation. Arguing and 'trying to hold it together' at the start is not a good foundation. ...time to run!

Money: Any man who is serious will have an idea of how much he will have to spend to pull it off. Some guys will be sailing pretty close to the wind but that doesn't mean they can't support you. Being careful with money shouldn't be taken as a sign he is broke... maybe he's just being sensible which should be seen as a quality. However, if he's struggling financially to make the first trip to PI... he ain't got a hope of funding the rest.

Doesn't want to visit: Yes, he should be gagging to get to you... and you should feel the same. Also, a relationship naturally has to move forward or it will starve. However, you do need to consider his work commitments. Don't assume he can drop everything, fly half way round the world, so you can leap into his arms like the scene in Armageddon! Personally, I would ask right at the start with all the other questions... but tactfully.. like, 'if he met a girl he liked, would he visit her and when?'. If he answers 2/3 months for example, hold him to it, then if he starts making excuses .... time to run!

Good luck to you all

the only problem that i can forsee with my bf would be..statement no.2..about the MONEY..the only thing that hinders us from our plans is his financial capability..i do believe he loves me and there's no doubt in what i feel for him..we keep on setting dates for our plans but its constantly changing bec of his financial capabilty..he doesnt support me financialy but that doesnt matter all i want is for us to be together..i know this might just be a test for us..and i would want to stick with him no matter what..but i cant deny that this is already frustrating..and its sad to see him down and sad because of this problem..he is working as a chef..and sometimes i cant help but wonder how other people can manage to save up just to make their relationship work..but on a second thought he's been changing jobs just to make it all work..so i know it will all happen because i can see the effort but the only question is when..now.im trying to check if there is any way for me to go to UK using my own options..bec i really dont know how long do i have to wait if i will just sit here and do nothing..