Hold on a minute! Apart from the fact, you're attempting to dish out advice long after the fact, I think you're focusing way too much on the sensitive part of the subject title of this thread!
What are you talking about when you go on about having the pychological capacity to deal with it?!? For me, it was just more a case of naievity, brought about by a lack of experience in dealing with bar girls! Nothing more, nothing less! Ok, I made a mistake in falling for one! But who hasn't fallen for someone (and I don't mean a bar girl) who is obviously not good for them!
If you've actually bothered to read this whole thread properly, you will see, thanks to the advice from everybody on this forum at the time I started this thread, I've now learnt a great deal! I'm less naive, a little more wiser, and also very appreciative of the advice given to me!
I'm now also well into the process of moving on from this part of my life, so thanks for your attempt at advice, but I think it's a case of too little, too late!