Indeed, doubts are part and parcel of any ldr, particularly between a westerner and a filipina, where money will frequently be the issue.
About 3 days before my second visit, I was woken at 3am in the UK with an urgent request for P25k to (part)pay for a Caesarian op for sister-in-law. I found that a difficult time - particularly being disoriented by the early wakening. Yes, I did send the money, and little Jarrell is now 7 months old. Without the op he, his mother, or both, would almost certainly not have survived.
Life is tough for most filipinos, and money is always in short supply. Most filipinos live on utang. However, unlike westerners, who borrow money because they want a bigger, better, faster, car, or the latest plasma tv, a filipino borrows money for the absolute essentials of life.
If you believe in your relationship with this girl, and you can afford the money, then go ahead and send it.
As for my story ... I have now left the UK - sold up everything there - in order to live in Phils, and I marry my filipina this coming Saturday!
