The Problems occur when I make a post, it is always bound to cause the replies that have come in on this thread.

I am of course not stereo typing all Filipinos who happen to be married, and I am not saying for a moment, all British guys who meet married Filipino women should duck out of the relationship, just because I happen to think they are in for the marathon of all time.

With the David Scott case, I am merely trying to illustrate, that all of us these days must be on our guard, we have to take precautions and make a judgement based on the facts in our situation.

For one thing, I think David Scott was foolish to post photos of himself and Miss Delfino on a social networking site.

Everyone knows, that when it comes to extorting money, the Filipino's will take every opportunity to take this as far as it will go, when they may as is often said "Get something out of it"

I am sure not for one moment did Noriel Delfino care about his wife's situation, especially as he forced her into working oversea's where he sat back and spent the proceeds.

The minute there is a foreigner involved, the $$$$$$ signs light up in their eyes, so yes I believe David Scott should have thought a little bit more about advertising his relationship, which in effect is what he did, let me repeat this.

David Scott advertised his adulterous relationship with a married Filipino woman.

When you say it like that, it kind of beggars belief into why he decided to advertise, possibly, he was quite proud of Miss Delfino, secondly, he is just your usual Brit who falls in love with someone 6000 miles away from home and is chuffed to bits that he actually found someone that really cares about him, and in his mind, his life time partner.

I would not for one minute say that David Scott should have ended his relationship with Miss Delfino, nor do i say, he should have not entered into it, the matter of course is purely for his judgement.

The fact is, the Philippines family code is rather out of touch with the realities of the western world, and the no fault divorce culture of our country is kind of taken for granted.

In the Philippines when human rights activists tried to introduce a no fault divorce act for the Philippines, the author's were tried in the Catholic church as ones who would burn in hell.

That is what such ones are up against in the Philippines, so where does that leave the ladies that find themselves in marriages they do not want to be in, someone said earlier, "Don't they deserve a chance at love also"?

Yes absolutely they do, provided of course, that there legal husband is not hovering around in the background and that their relationship with him is not acrimonious as in the case of Noriel Delfino and Cynthia Delfino.
I am planning on going to see her next week - in Davao that carries it's own risks. Reading about David Scott makes me worried, should I just cancel the trip? If I cancel, I am sure our relationship will take many months to fix - if it is ever fixed. If I don't, then maybe I will be subject to extortion.
As far as Ady is concerned, nope, I don't think you need to cancel your trip, what I would advise you to do, is not advertise your visit with your Girlfriend, and I think also you should keep your first meeting formal and professional, and I think its wise to bring to your GF's attention the David Scott case, and say that you are mindful of the Philippines family code.

For example, should this ladies current husband, who by the way, is her legal husband, and (forget any notions you have about they are separated and don't live together)

That kind of means little in the Philippines, it may be that he is guilty of concubinage, and just happens to be between houses, i.e. he is at the other woman's house, and is not living with the current wife.

Be careful ! he may get wind of your presence, and then start to circle around you, the minute you have any kind of sexual contact with his wife, could lead him to have you arrested in the same manner as David Scott was arrested, especially if they think they can get money from you to keep the charges dropped.

The other thing that could happen to you, is that a mission warrant may be issued against you, God forbid that happens, you could find yourself languishing in the Davao City Detention centre, where foreigners have been known to be incarcerated against their will for 8 to 12 months without any sort of trial.

Thats the worse that could happen to you, on the other hand, it maybe that you go on your holiday, and meet your Girlfriend, have a great time with her, and nothing comes out of it, maybe the husband is never in the area,and does not learn of your existence, the choice of course is yours.

The other thing you may have to take into consideration, is that you only know the details of your girlfriends relationship from her, its pretty easy for men in the Philippines to have concubines, and its pretty hard to prove they are guilty of it.

But in a woman's case, if she were to take a man in a sexual act, that immediately would render her to the possibility of immediate imprisonment, and bail would have to be set at around P12000 To P20,000, in some cases, Bail can be as much as P50,000.

The charges are not hard to prove, as in David Scott's case the evidence is plain for all to see, a baby has entered into the world, that is the evidence, and the case is a prima facia.

In other words the body has been produced.

Ady tread lightly my friend, I am being serious here, be very careful what you do in Davao City, You do not want to fall foul of the PNP there, and the Mayor of that City is one Rodrigo Duterte, not a man to be messed about with, he will have you banged up very quickly, if you fall foul of local laws.

They don't call him the sherif of Dodge City for nothing, you might see him as he rides around at night on a Harley Davidson with twin 6 shooters on his hip.

Take care, don't do anything stupid.