Chances of getting an English man...

[ms rae]

Hi it's me again!

Haven't posted in a while - been really busy. But I'm back with a question that has been bugging me.

Do British guys like intelligent girls? How much value do they give in this quality in a woman over the physical?

I'm asking this because, I have a friend who is in-love with an English guy(who seems to be very smart). But she has doubts that he will like her(pay attention to her) because she is Filipina and not that skinny sexy like other girls. She is very pretty actually - very. However she's not your typical effeminate girl.

Do you think she has a chance?

And what do British guys think about being courted? Or girls making the first move? Like what if they received flowers or a painting from a girl? Will they be turned-off?

[baboyako]

different. horses for different courses



some like the going soft , rather than the firm

[Ady]

Tell your friend to go for it. I assume they are quite friendly to each other, and that he is single.

Personally, intelligence is more important than physical looks. I mean, we are looking for a girl to spend our lives with. It will be pretty useless if we are 70, and find ourselves with a partner to whom we cannot talk. Looks can be important - first impression and all that - but I think someone with a sense of humour is much more important.

About girls making the first move. That is allowed. I personally wouldn't like flowers from a girl (being a tough Welsh lad - just kidding), but my gf sent me a painting of Mount Apo (she did it herself) for my 29th birthday. On my 31st, we were both in HK and she wrote a message on the mirror in lipstick. Both those things are memorable - light hearted, and special.

However, I would be put off by receiving a gift from a girl who hasn't declared an interest in me. That may scare me off personally.

So, tell her to go for it. Every guy is different. If she is getting some signals from him, then why not? Fortune favours the brave. Good luck to her.

[joebloggs]

Tell your friend to go for it. I assume they are quite friendly to each other, and that he is single.

Personally, intelligence is more important than physical looks. I mean, we are looking for a girl to spend our lives with. It will be pretty useless if we are 70, and find ourselves with a partner to whom we cannot talk. Looks can be important - first impression and all that - but I think someone with a sense of humour is much more important.

your right about telling her to go for it, go with the flow, see where she ends up

intelligence, hmmm wife is brilliant academically , but lacks common sense , maybe you can't have both , as for being intelligent and good looking, can you be both

well little joe, hes got my good looks and from what i can see, my common sense, as for him having the wife brains i hope so , anyway 2 out of 3 is not bad


i agree sense of 'humor' is important, if you can't laugh at someone, who can you laugh at

[ms rae]

Tell your friend to go for it. I assume they are quite friendly to each other, and that he is single.

Personally, intelligence is more important than physical looks. I mean, we are looking for a girl to spend our lives with. It will be pretty useless if we are 70, and find ourselves with a partner to whom we cannot talk. Looks can be important - first impression and all that - but I think someone with a sense of humour is much more important.

About girls making the first move. That is allowed. I personally wouldn't like flowers from a girl (being a tough Welsh lad - just kidding), but my gf sent me a painting of Mount Apo (she did it herself) for my 29th birthday. On my 31st, we were both in HK and she wrote a message on the mirror in lipstick. Both those things are memorable - light hearted, and special.

However, I would be put off by receiving a gift from a girl who hasn't declared an interest in me. That may scare me off personally.

So, tell her to go for it. Every guy is different. If she is getting some signals from him, then why not? Fortune favours the brave. Good luck to her.

Thanks much for your insight and encouragement on this Ady! Wow, your gf is really sweet. And you must really love her to appreciate her effort - you two are lucky to have each other. Good luck to both of you.

[Ady]

Don't forget to tell us how your friend gets on Ms Rae.

[ms rae]

Don't forget to tell us how your friend gets on Ms Rae.

Of course! Thanks again Ady!

i think the guy would be caught off guard if the girl tells him she would court her. it is not normal for girls to court men, especially if you are a filipina. BUT there is nothing wrong in making the first move though. sometimes it helps "break the ice" cos some men are likely to be "torpe".

as to giving flowers or presents, that is OK... surely they would appreciate it. not sure about the flowers though... i have been told by a british friend not to send flowers to men... only gay men get them. But it is sweet to send your man some flowers.

but be sure that you know the person well enough before you do these things. just to be sure he wont get offended po.

That's great advice Mich thank you very much! You're very open minded. I wish a lot of guys were like you. Haha yeah. I think flowers are a bit risky to give but I guess if the guys would think of it as just a form of endearment, it shouldn't be so degrading of their masculinity right? I myself would give my man flowers - that is if I really love him. Flowers are just so innocent... and yes, you're right - sweet.

[KeithD]

How much value do they give in this quality in a woman / over the physical?

0% / 100% is the norm

[Mich]

And what do British guys think about being courted? Or girls making the first move? Like what if they received flowers or a painting from a girl? Will they be turned-off?

i think the guy would be caught off guard if the girl tells him she would court her. it is not normal for girls to court men, especially if you are a filipina. BUT there is nothing wrong in making the first move though. sometimes it helps "break the ice" cos some men are likely to be "torpe".

as to giving flowers or presents, that is OK... surely they would appreciate it. not sure about the flowers though... i have been told by a british friend not to send flowers to men... only gay men get them. But it is sweet to send your man some flowers.

but be sure that you know the person well enough before you do these things. just to be sure he wont get offended po.

[RHB]

lets be honest, how many brit guys are looking for intelectual filipinas that are not so feminine?

0/0%.

[joebloggs]

lets be honest, how many brit guys are looking for intelectual filipinas that are not so feminine?

0/0%.

who wants a good looking dumb barbie doll would rather be with a good looking intelectual filipina, or do women with brains you RHB

[RHB]

Joe
your just rude, but it's ok,
My tastes run towards intelligent,(not intelectual) there is a difference, and attractive women, but I asked the question first.

like I said how many guys, are looking for intellectual ugly girls?
Let's be real.

[joebloggs]

Joe
your just rude, but it's ok,
My tastes run towards intelligent,(not intelectual) there is a difference, and attractive women, but I asked the question first.

like I said how many guys, are looking for intellectual ugly girls?
Let's be real.

depends how much money she has

, i'm being rude , you're the one who keeps slagging off filipina's not me , only filipina i've ever called is the misses, but thats northern humour for you..

intelligent or intelectual, can be the same... or same difference

[kimmi]

Joe
like I said how many guys, are looking for intellectual ugly girls?
Let's be real.

what about u RHB what do u prefer??

[Gavanddal]

who wants a good looking dumb barbie doll would rather be with a good looking intelectual filipina,

Yup, my wife's got good looks AND brains, the full package!!

[KeithD]

Yup, my wife's got good looks AND brains, the full package!!

Does your Filipina mistress know about this?

[Mrs.JMajor]

huh ! now i am confused of MICH Michael or Michelle -------------------------------

[Mich]

its Michelle po... my bf's name is Kalbo

[ms rae]

like I said how many guys, are looking for intellectual ugly girls?
Let's be real.

I only said she wasn't that feminine. I didn't say she was ugly. Unless that means one and the same to you.

its Michelle po... my bf's name is Kalbo

Oh dear! Sorry Mich. My bad!

[RHB]

[QUOTE=ms rae;56098]I only said she wasn't that feminine. I didn't say she was ugly. Unless that means one and the same to you.


OK then she looks like a man? That's a definately a turn off for most men, unless brits like em that way...the tomboy look

[Mich]

it is ok, guys... i am used to being mistaken as a guy. maybe its my name. i know i dont look like a man

[kimmi]

oh no Mich why they always mistaken ur identity??he he he