Actually the process to get out of this somewhat uncomfortable situation unfolded on its own. I had to tell the girl that we could not be together any more. It was sad, and hurtful for me in a way, as she was a victim as much as I was. But certainly I had little to lose other than my neck if Papa decided to sneak up on me one night.
She was losing her foreigner.
The mother was actually sympathetic and we came to an understanding. I paid to send cathy to Manila, gave her 5k Pesos to live on until she could get established. They had relatives there. Well I thought she would get the money. I found out later, mother took the money from the girl before she left.
I was able to find another house quickly, and moved without warning the family. I stayed in contact for awhile, Cathy ended up pregnant with an old boyfriend, and is living with mom raising the kid. The father is absentee, not uncommon here.
I laid low for a while thinking that retaliation might come my way, but it did not. It was a valuble lesson for a stupid and naive foreigner. Money talks. and divides families. You can kill someone in a car accident, have the family threaten you. You pay them the death penalty and they are all smiles again. It was one lesson however that did not prepare me for the next episode.
