Objections to marriage

[cruisingkerry]

Hi,
My finace and I are planning to get married in the Phils later this year. He has a son by another woman in the Phils and her parents are trying to push him into marrying her. Obviously this is not what he wants and has never been the case.

When we go to the Phils and have to post the notice that we want to get married could the family of this girl stop our marriage going ahead.

Of course Bert will continue to honour his obligation to the child and wants to be as involved as he can be with his upbringing, we have already discussed going to the Phils as often as we can afford and Berts Mother bringing the child over for holidays. And I have absolutely no intention of standing in the way of bert having as good a relationship as he can with the child because I know how important it is to Bert and all I want is for him to be happy. I should point out that at the minute Bert is working away at sea and only sees the child once a year and we will be planning on living in the UK because that way we can earn more money to provide for Berts obligations at home and our own livelihood.


I am just wondering how obstructive the girls family can be for our future plans.

Any thoughts anyone??

Thanks for your help
Kerry xx

[ginapeterb]

Firstly you don't make clear what Bert's nationality is, you say he is your fiance, fine but is he Filipino seafarer ? you say he lives in UK, presume he is a British then.

If so, there is no way the parents of the other woman can have any influence on his marriage to you, since if he is not married, then there is no legal caveat that may be introduced to stop this.

Get on with your plans, and don't worry about any outside inteferences.

And good luck

[nomorericepleas]

Firstly you don't make clear what Bert's nationality is, you say he is your fiance, fine but is he Filipino seafarer ? you say he lives in UK, presume he is a British then.

If so, there is no way the parents of the other woman can have any influence on his marriage to you, since if he is not married, then there is no legal caveat that may be introduced to stop this.

Get on with your plans, and don't worry about any outside inteferences.

And good luck

i would agree totally with previous comment, i don't see what they can do to stop your marriage happening if he had no legal tie to the other woman. Of course that doesn't mean they won't try. People are objectionable wherever you go, and i've found relatives of my fiancee to be a match for anyone in that department. It's quite likely though that they can't afford to hire a swanky lawyer to look into it anyway, and i really can't see any way the law can trip you up.
Good luck, sounds like you have things sorted.

[andypaul]

I understand Bert is Filipino who works aboard a Cruise ship and still a phill citzen?
If the marriage is to take place in his local town where the mother of his child and her family live then there is every chance they will find out about this. How they react i guess depends on the two of thems relationship and in a phill cvill wedding there is the chance for somebody to object to the marrying of you both and i guess while waiting the ten days i think it is.

[cruisingkerry]

Thanks everyone!

Sorry its taken a while to acknowledge your help, I've been away for a few weeks.

Looking forward to going to Venice in a few weeks to visit Bert on his ship for a few days.

[andypaul]

Thanks everyone!

Sorry its taken a while to acknowledge your help, I've been away for a few weeks.

Looking forward to going to Venice in a few weeks to visit Bert on his ship for a few days.

Have a great time in Venice

[Piamed]

Enjoy Venice, fortunately its not yet hot there as it can be a bit pongy when it is.

My understanding is also that Bert is a citizen of the Philippines who happens to be stationed in the UK/EU.

Based upon the info you've provided to us I don't believe there is any legal ground upon which they cn stifle your plans. However, as mentioned earlier by andypaul depending on the other girl's family influence in the town/city he comes from, there could be a few issues.

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