Western Union Transfer Screw-Up

[andypaul]

Thanks andypaul, I will look into this

The pleasures all mine and im hoping that the GF and uncle between them sort it out

[aposhark]

I have some great news!

I have just spoken with my GF and her uncle and he did collect the money when Western Union said he did

I am still not exactly sure what happened, my GF said it was her mistake and she had "shame" to me and her uncle. Her English is not 100% and neither is her uncle's; it can lead to all sorts of problems as this has done. Now if I was dealing with an English person it would be easier to ascertain what happened, but I am chatting with my future Filipina wife and I just think I will have to make things even plainer in my instructions. She is now going for the ID then opening a bank account later.
To be honest, I haven't slept very well with all this hanging over us. A LDR can be so difficult at times and I was getting quite depressed as I couldn't understand what, for me, was something simple.

I spoke with her uncle and he said he did get the money back in the middle of March! Why my GF didn't understand is beyond me. I'm just so happy she has it now. I just feel that the business of a close-knit Filipino family is something I will have to patiently try to understand.
It was only sorted out when the uncle and her travelled from two different islands to get to the WU on the mainland.
I do know that my GF shows a lot of respect to her uncle, almost deference at times.

I would like to thank everyone who took time to send replies to this thread. I am just so very relieved, happy and back on track with my beautiful (crazy) girlfriend. I have told her she owes me the biggest kiss for all this intrigue.....

aposhark

[Alan]

Phew! Glad it all turned out ok?

One question though - why didn't the uncle tell her that he had collected and then give her the money? (Or did this actually happen and I am missing the obvious?)

Al.

[aposhark]

Phew! Glad it all turned out ok?

One question though - why didn't the uncle tell her that he had collected and then give her the money? (Or did this actually happen and I am missing the obvious?)

Al.

Hi Alan,
I wish I knew what the obvious was myself!

I just remember when we went for a meal in a very big plush house in the sitio that was owned by my GF's auntie, that even though everyone knew we were an "item", my GF disappeared and never sat by my side until the meal was finished. We were all older than her and I had the feeling that she was showing respect by not imposing on the occasion, as if it wasn't really her place to be there.
I get the feeling that she shows her uncle a level of respect that goes beyond anything I have witnessed before. She was like this with everyone there who was older however.
There are so many imponderables, her shyness combined with her elegant strength.
My guess now is that she didn't like to ask direct questions of her uncle and things were only resolved when they met face-to-face at my request.
I think the fact that they were on different islands had a part to play in the saga.

I am just so relieved