meeting the parents

[Pauldo]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(berniedalton &#064; Apr 24 2006, 09&#58;01 PM) Quoted post</div><div class='quotemain'>
hi to all, im off to the philippines in september and getting married in october, after an 18mth courtship, i will be meeting my in-laws for the first time, my question is should i bring gifts with me? my future asawa is the eldest of seven, I need help as I want to ensure that my bride and the family are happy, help-what do i do?
bernie dalton
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If you don&#39;t take anything, and nobody speaks to you, and you hear the words " Aii, walang pasalubong" you will know you have committed the mortal sin.

In some .......isation of convention Filipinos seem to have decided that every returning relative or friend must bring them a gift back from their travels, and not doing so can condemn you to a very quiet and tense time until they get over it.

It always seems to me to be a very selfish attitude towards what should be an act of voluntary and spontaneous generosity. They can be very much like that though, much the same way an entire extended family can happily live of the income of one relative who works their a&#036;&#036; off overseas, whilst the rest make no attempt to support themselves, because &#39;insert name&#39; is earning the big bucks.

[berniedalton]

thanx for info....i thought my family was big but my fiance&#39;s family dwarfs mine, hers is HUGE - its scary, her grandfather, mother & father think the world of me as i did (for the first time in my life) ask for their permission for their grand/daughter&#39;s hand in marriage, obviously i do want to impress them but im also concerned that being too showy may offend them as they work hard for so little ( that was a shock as i earn more in an 2 hours than they earn in a week&#33 and it could feel like rubbing salt into a wound, besides her father is p/t barangay police officer and owns a gun haha, seriously i do want to get it right though

[Admin]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(berniedalton &#064; Apr 25 2006, 12&#58;54 PM) Quoted post</div><div class='quotemain'>
that was a shock as i earn more in an 2 hours than they earn in a week&#33;
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...and I gamble in a week what they will never earn in there lives [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/yikes.gif[/img]

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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Pauldo &#064; Apr 25 2006, 04&#58;33 AM) Quoted post</div><div class='quotemain'>
If you don&#39;t take anything, and nobody speaks to you, and you hear the words " Aii, walang pasalubong" you will know you have committed the mortal sin.

In some .......isation of convention Filipinos seem to have decided that every returning relative or friend must bring them a gift back from their travels, and not doing so can condemn you to a very quiet and tense time until they get over it.

It always seems to me to be a very selfish attitude towards what should be an act of voluntary and spontaneous generosity. They can be very much like that though, much the same way an entire extended family can happily live of the income of one relative who works their a&#036;&#036; off overseas, whilst the rest make no attempt to support themselves, because &#39;insert name&#39; is earning the big bucks.
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But not my family as I am not tolerating them in pasalubong,I am the very lazy bringing pasalubong from any other&#39;s places I had been then I ve always saying them that I am really lazy but the good things you can&#39;t hear them any other words.I was in Hong Kong and Middle East and every time I got home I just brought my shoulder bag. So they won&#39;t expect , For me it&#39;s quite good as nobody well expect me to brought for them something.The only thing I heard asking me pasalubung is our neighboors, I remember when Rob asked me what things he can brought to my family I replied nothing as I really don&#39;t like it to become it as a habit . and if we gonna have a holiday again I don&#39;t like to bring luggage’s it&#39;s cheap to bought clothes in the Philippines . And I remember I did send by packages all my luggages from HK. and Middle East All I want is to get out of the crowded air port and not to wait for the bagages at the bagage area for ages it chaos And I’ve always coming home surprised I just phone them when I am already on the way to our house by the bus I t’s very exciting for me, yes I did that always . the last time we had our vacation nobody knew that we arrived they’re just all can’t believed and little bit of shock but yet happy to see us .Well I can’t blame other’s that they bringing pasalubong as they are happy to doing it and I am happy too of what I am doing , So be it ……