An interesting post....I think it very much depends on your experience
I have spent 3 months on a popular Asian dating site in that time Ive had 1253 messages in that time I've had innumerable one time only chats....learnt to be very upfront with what sort of relationship I'm looking for and how i see things
Had a few promising chats that initially looked like they could be the real thing only to find after a week or three a deal breaker..such as
I was sent by mistake an email with photos....but to the wrong name it was intended for another guy
She contacted a friend of mine who visited her page and said she wasn't talking to anyone else having told me the same (3 weeks in)
An amazing amount of requests for money....including "my landlord is here now to throw me on the street" "do you have boomerang?"
Through all this Ive kept my sense of humour wondered if i should forget virtual and just rely on going to the Phillis and rely on good old fashioned dating methods
However I'm now talking to a great(i hope) Lady very upfront about her family commitments.
She is fiery articulate ,funny and we seem to have some chemistry Ive told her I'm not going to do the "i love you" on line version we are friends with "interest in one another and I'm going to visit for 6 months without a huge projection....we may meet and she may run lol
Or we may fall in love and live interestingly ever after which would be great
in the meantime I'm talking daily and taking every opportunity to ask questions and encourage her to do the same.....brutal honesty is the order of the day and all Ive asked is that we never lie
Nothing in another's past is going to bother me its the present I'm interested in and building trust
I'm not looking for a commodity and don't want to be one if its not based on love and mutual appreciation and respect (and i do know the difference ) forget it
