wish i meet someone like amibonker...
very giving and very loving ....
wish i meet someone like amibonker...
very giving and very loving ....
Many of us out here katie37pinayuk. It's a 2-way requirement though. Good luck!
T
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Agree totally with Piamed - we are out here, but it's gotta flex both ways! Keep the faith!Originally Posted by Piamed
Just be careful. It’s nice to follow your heart but do not forget to use your head. There are loads of scams in the Philippines via online.
I suggest you visit her in the Philippines to verify everything.
Good luck and hope you found yourself a genuine Filipina.
Cheers!
Is it not possible to have private investigator check it out ...hmm i am new here myself so am really not sure if this is good advice or not
I have read on american sites of indivuals having other halfs checked out and various members of the family for one reason or another.
So not that daft an idea.
Welcome to the site by the way
Now thats an idea for an occupation in September fits great for me must get a web site together
Welcome aboard chitchat!
T
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i don't get a handful or receipts when i arrive... now this is getting me worried ......
An eventful weekend one might say.
As you know I'd be suffering over my relationship with my Filipina gf who I have known for just a month.
In that time I have sent sent money and goods (digital camera) to the value of £428.38 (29,914.79 PHP). That was not something I could keep up as a self-employed individual particularly as April is always my worst month of the year and this year is no different.
I think I owe you all an explanation as you have been so kind in offering advice from "hang in there" to "get out now" to "go to Manila". I favoured the latter option but realistically it wasn't going to happen for a while and I couldn't stand the pressure that was building up in my mind.
We chatted on Saturday but she called it off after a short time saying she was unwell. This was due to stress bought on by her situation.
On Saturday night when I was going to bed, I prayed for guidance.
During the night, I dreamt about the film "The Exorcist" which I thought was weird as I have not seen that film for quite some time. When I got up on Sunday, I pondered whether this was sign from on high that I was been taken for a ride.
On Sunday morning, my gf was online looking quite well and we chatted. She said she was still unwell and wondered how she might buy medicine. I said that I had no money to send her and she said "OK". However, the mention of money registered with me.
We chatted some more and then she said her friend had left her alone with the PC and she would "do a show 4 me", which she did. She pulled off her top and she was not wearing a bra, which at 46" was pretty obvious even with her top on. This surprised me a little because it sort of indicated that she was used to stripping off. During the session I thought she was looking off to someone but it's hard to say. Also, I thought it possible she had more than one screen because her eyes would look to my right sometimes.
Anyway, we said goodbye to each other and that we would take again later.
Afterwards, I printed out the full record of our conversations on YM and read through them with a yellow highlighter. While a lot of our conversations were lovely, the frequent mention of money was a common thread - not everyday but often enough.
I then added up what it had cost me so far.
Then I decided to do something that someone had suggested in this thread and that was to send her an e-mail using a dormant account I had with Hotmail. In the e-mail I posed as an Aussie looking for a good time online. After a few hours, receiving no reply to my e-mail, it suddenly dawned on me that the e-mail may have shown it came from me. Sure enough, there was my name as plain as day as the sender. Stupid me!
At that point, I realised that was the end.
Since then, we have not communicated either via e-mail or YM and I''ll be surprised if we do.
I'm battling with the thoughts that I have misjudged a lovely poor girl and feel the need to make a big apology, BUT my head tells me to leave things as they are for financial reasons if nothing else.
What lessons have I learnt:
If someone asks you three times if you are on YM in your first encounter, be suspicious.
If you are the type of person who wants to trust people instinctively and are not strong on skepticism, then do not get too friendly with people right away.
If your gf manages to get online at a variety of different locations - all well lit - and with reasonable webcams - be suspicious.
If you gf, who claims to be very shy, can strip without an iota of shyness and is very good at doing what she does, whilst claiming to be a virgin, be suspicious.
If she can type out the words "i love u" several times in a couple of seconds, then you know that a key on her keyboard has been pre-programmed. Be suspicious.
If she insist on calling you "honey" or "hun" instead of your own name, then be suspicious that she calls everyone that so she doesn't confuse herself. Be suspicious.
Now I realise that none of what I have said is proof of anything but it leads me to the painful conclusion that I have been the victim of very clever and sophisticated scamming. Her e-mails to me answering my concerns and the letter from her mother were very convincing and I felt from the heart and that still bothers me a lot. However, enough is enough. I won't allow myself
to fall for this sort of situation again.
I'm delighted that those of you who have a loving relationship with a beautiful Filipina do so and I would never suggest for a moment that all Filipinas are like this.
My first love are Japanese women and I shall stick to that in future.
In conclusion, ley me say it before you do:
I AM BONKERS!
You giving up on all Filipino's ? - not a wise thing just as you got caught by one scammer...
Calling you hun is ok... as long as they do use your name some of the time... now i get aswa ko...
Thanks for sharing your update... I guess takes a few bumps in the road to get where you need to be sometimes. I can see that the support from this 'family' has helped you find your way.
Take care - keep in touch, OK? I would like to see your story have a happy ending!
all down to money, root of all evil, it could turn a good man/woman bad
some people when thier desperate enough or thru greed will do or say anything to get it..
pitty it ended like this, maybe she's a decent gal if not for the want or need of money..
for you and this lady it's the end of the journey, but it does'nt always end this way, i sent my then g/f alot more money than you did, but in the end we got married, and that was more than 5yrs ago, still togther, and looks like we will always be...
good luck next time
Hi amibonkers,
Sorry to hear that you seem to have been scammed, but it's best to find out sooner rather than later.
The stripping thing bothered me.
That would be the sort of thing that a good girl would do if you had met her and then had a relationship. She seems to be using her body to get cash and my guess is that she is probably doing it with many other men too.
When I was in Phils, there are so many lovely "good" girls if we are patient.
Go over for a holiday one day and you will see how lovely the girls are face-to-face. Don't let this scammer put you off Filipinas. They are lovely.
Hey amIbonkers?
That you can laugh at yourself shows you are safely on the road to healing. I guess the signs were fairly strong but it is a testimony to your willingness to see good in others that you gave it a fair crack
I did chuckle with you emailing her from another account with the same name - sorry, that is funny!
Good luck with you search for love in Japan. Do stay in touch you have quite a character and your thread has stimulated some interesting departures.
All the best!
T
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I used to get honey ko !, now I get Bobo, Gago !
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Gulp!!! I daren't ask! Bobo... Gago?.. sounds kinda kinky whatever it is.
I can see I have a LOT to learn here!
Go to amazon and get yourself a tagalog to english dictonary i bought a selection the best one a rough guide one was stolen off me by my Wifes little bro and sister for their school work so it must be good.Gulp!!! I daren't ask! Bobo... Gago?.. sounds kinda kinky whatever it is.
I can see I have a LOT to learn here!
When you find out would you let me know too, sounds like a swingers party to meGulp!!! I daren't ask! Bobo... Gago?.. sounds kinda kinky whatever it is.
I can see I have a LOT to learn here!
I wonder if there's a dictionary online... I think they delete the kinky stuff from the printed ones. I had a Chinese dictionary online and it worked quite well!When you find out would you let me know too, sounds like a swingers party to me
Are you saying it is best to use kinky Chinese words at a Brit-Fil swingers partyI wonder if there's a dictionary online... I think they delete the kinky stuff from the printed ones. I had a Chinese dictionary online and it worked quite well!
Maybe this will helpI wonder if there's a dictionary online... I think they delete the kinky stuff from the printed ones. I had a Chinese dictionary online and it worked quite well!
I think it means "Idiot"
Ah yes... Bobo is "stupid" in Spanish also... similar.
Thanks Eljohno!
And this one covers cebuano and more
http://www.bohol.ph/diksyunaryo.php
Thanks keithAngel
Do you happen to know of a website that has translations of simple Tagalog phrases? I would like to text some phrases to my GF
Keep it clean now folks
Aposhark you got a huge pool of experts on this subject on here if you ask them nicely im sure they can help youThanks keithAngel
Do you happen to know of a website that has translations of simple Tagalog phrases? I would like to text some phrases to my GF
Keep it clean now folks
And this one: http://www.101languages.net/tagalog/Thanks keithAngel
Do you happen to know of a website that has translations of simple Tagalog phrases? I would like to text some phrases to my GF
Keep it clean now folks
T
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Thanks also Piamed
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