Am I bonkers?

[IainBusby]

until i get there i credit her with being autonomous and whilst i might send an occasional gift i will not send money until we have met and confirmed our interest in each other.

When I first met my gf (now wife), although I was never asked to send money by her, I had been asked by others and had already decided this was the position I would take from the outset with any possible relationship online.

My wife never asked for money, she was working and contributing to her family welfare.

Same here. Even when I asked her to meet me in Manila when I first went to Phils to visit her and she agreed, she asked me if she should borrow the money for the airfare and was quite prepared to do so. I did of course send her the money for this.

After we met the second time, and both realized that we were mutually compatible, I started with some financial help

I started with financial help after the first visit.

On my second trip over, I did bring a small pc with me, to leave with her, had her connected to broadband, and phone line in the house

Almost the same here but in my case, I sent the money for the PC etc after the first visit.

The only times she actually asked me to send "her allowance" was when I forgot to do it, due to the traveling involved with my job. And the bills for the above were overdue.

Same here more or less.


Iain.