I have more Italian friends and two long time filipina friends. In my long years living abroad I have learned that it is very hard to find true filipina friends.
Quite frankly. it is very hard to find a smart filipina which you can exchange varied interests and opinions.
If I see a Filipina I just smile at them, if they don't smile back it doesn't offend me at all. I just look them in their eyes and I wonder why they can't look back straight to me.
'We dance in a circle and suppose, while the secret sits in the middle and knows'
R.F.
I have the same experience. When i travelled back to the UK i met a filipina bound for Birmingham and we have the same connecting flight so we were together on a city tour in Seoul. I asked for her e-mail address and she said later then finally forgot all about it. She seems not interested having a friend.
Last Saturday while i and hubby were at the town center i happen to see a filipina and i followed her bec i was so eager to meet some. She stopped and talked to a fellow filipina so when i passed by and heard them conversing in tagalog, i said hi. One was in a hurry to leave but the other filipina was kind and friendly. We have exchanged our contact numbers.
In another occasion while i was walking in the precinct, i saw a filipina approaching and i thought of smiling and to greet her but, when she is a meter infront of me she nodded and talked to her daughter but i saw her glancing to me for a second. I told my hubby about this and can't understand why some filipinos are reluctant to meet thier "kababayans". I know there are quite few filipinos who are not that kind of snubbish and are friendly and smart. I hope to meet them someday....
" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
yes i know what you feel,because here also in dartford lots of pilipina,and same at you, im trying to talk to theme but they dont wont, or they never smile,akala mo mga maganda,Originally Posted by trends5squared
I went to Newquay town Center a couple of weeks ago with my hubby and mother-in-law. We were just looking around town and decided to pop in Woolworths. It was my mother-in-law (whom I called mum) who first saw 2 Filipinas and pointed them to me. I was so excited, finally I thought . . . Filipinas to talk to. I followed them with my hubby (like stalkers) and waited for the right time to approach them. When I finally did, I introduced myself and my hubby and started to make a friendly and nice conversation with them, but to my disappointment, they were very hesitant and you could feel the cold response and that they didn’t want to talk to you at all.
Well to cut the story short........I went home very sad and disappointed.Call me nationalistic, but aren’t we Filipinos supposed to help each other in a foreign country?
they might be illegal immigrants here, you know, they don't want to be asked anything..
Good point and some have been here for years and have done well for themselves but want to keep a little discrete just in case.
I know of at least one Phill lady the Wife knows who has never said it but certain actions lead me to belive that she would rather keep a low profile.
Are they cross-eyed
I am sorry darlin that you experience such thing from our fellow filipinas. Don't worry about it, as long as your happy with your husband, that what matters most. I am from plymouth so maybe we cab be friends. I've met some filipinas here and they're all nice to me, don't mind those snobs ok?
Are they cross-eyed
I think they get shy and they get self conscious
When you encounter a Filipina like me on the street (based on my experience), the first thing they will look at is how you are dressed. Next, they will look in your shoes, bag and accessories and then they will finally decide to look at you in your eyes. Then there will be the kind of look of 'should I make the first move or not?'.
If you smile at them, some will smile back to you (if interested), some will just ignore you and look away (as if they have not noticed you)...Like I give a ***t
'We dance in a circle and suppose, while the secret sits in the middle and knows'
R.F.
Very true!
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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I think they get shy and they get self conscious
When you encounter a Filipina like me on the street (based on my experience), the first thing they will look at is how you are dressed. Next, they will look in your shoes, bag and accessories and then they will finally decide to look at you in your eyes. Then there will be the kind of look of 'should I make the first move or not?'.
If you smile at them, some will smile back to you (if interested), some will just ignore you and look away (as if they have not noticed you)...Like I give a ***t
" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
Not all filipinas are like that, but mostly are. You will be lucky if you can find one that got a good heart. I live in Cornwall (near Newquay) for 5 years and in my own experience filipina community there, got a bad rep. They always have misunderstanding. Keep on competing with one another. Sad, but that is the truth.
I think they get shy and they get self conscious
When you encounter a Filipina like me on the street (based on my experience), the first thing they will look at is how you are dressed. Next, they will look in your shoes, bag and accessories and then they will finally decide to look at you in your eyes. Then there will be the kind of look of 'should I make the first move or not?'.
If you smile at them, some will smile back to you (if interested), some will just ignore you and look away (as if they have not noticed you)...Like I give a ***t
We can meet up if you want. I will be visiting Cornwall very soon.
I think they get shy and they get self conscious
When you encounter a Filipina like me on the street (based on my experience), the first thing they will look at is how you are dressed. Next, they will look in your shoes, bag and accessories and then they will finally decide to look at you in your eyes. Then there will be the kind of look of 'should I make the first move or not?'.
If you smile at them, some will smile back to you (if interested), some will just ignore you and look away (as if they have not noticed you)...Like I give a ***t
i agree
usually filipinas are shy and self conscious.
but i can say that same as everywhere there
is good and bad.
yes i agree with my lover .
there is good and bad everywhere in the world.
I think that's just life in general. Some people are friendly and others aren't, it's the same in any country and culture. It is just a nice pleasure to meet friendly people as against the miserable ones. "When you're smiling, the whole world smiles at you...."
I think they get shy and they get self conscious
When you encounter a Filipina like me on the street (based on my experience), the first thing they will look at is how you are dressed. Next, they will look in your shoes, bag and accessories and then they will finally decide to look at you in your eyes. Then there will be the kind of look of 'should I make the first move or not?'.
If you smile at them, some will smile back to you (if interested), some will just ignore you and look away (as if they have not noticed you)...Like I give a ***t
I met an Englishman with his Filipina wife a couple of months ago. I asked the lady if she had many Filipina friends here in UK and she said she didn't because they were gossips who kept comparing what the husbands had; cars, houses etc.
I found that a little disconcerting but I try to take people as I find them and try to see the good in people.
I will let my future wife make her own mind up on the type of life she wants here. I was hoping that she will have some Filipina friends so she could occasionally talk in Visayan or Tagalog. It will be her decision though.
I was in Spain for a long time and saw English gossips there too.
I think it is just what some people do
That is why it is a treasure if you find a friend that doesn't look at what you have or what you do, but of what you are and what you can share to them...
Charlwill, I live too far from Cornwall, but if happens you are around Poole-Bournemouth, just give me a shout!
'We dance in a circle and suppose, while the secret sits in the middle and knows'
R.F.
Me too, I really treasure a friend/s with a good heart and broad minded. And yes, sharing to a friend/s what you have and what you can do is really a great thing to do. Being envious to one another is no good.That is why it is a treasure if you find a friend that doesn't look at what you have or what you do, but of what you are and what you can share to them...
Charlwill, I live too far from Cornwall, but if happens you are around Poole-Bournemouth, just give me a shout!
For sure, I will give you a shout if it happens that I will be in your area. I been there once and you lived in a beautiful part of the country.
For a few months Jet has started exploring the town on her own.
She knows the buses that she needs for work or shopping trips, and she started making new friends.
One of the ladies, she met, is actually married to the chef of the hotel where Jet works, and so they have a real natter in Visayan like schoolgirls....
And long shopping escapades.....
Ann, has already been here at our place, while I was in the office last week, and Jet, as the perfect host, cooked some fantastic adobo for their lunch.....
Of which I only managed to get the whiff of it... It ain't fair....But such is life.......
But what I find strange is Jet's reluctance to start any kind of conversation with Pinays in town, due to the fact that they seem to be unwilling to smile.
Sometime she prompts me to ask or say something to them to break the ice, and when I do, they ignore us completely....
Oh, well.... Never mind.
Well, you're not alone in this kind of circumstances.What we don't know is... What kind of burden they've got, why is it very hard for them S-M-I-L-E. But anyways, it seems that, when a filipina lived overseas, they've change alot! Not all, but most of them do. I really dont know, and I can't understant why!.
Change for the better and for the best but not for the worse and getting worst each time.
Very sad, but I think that is very true.
I find it really easy to talk to both pinoy and pinoy when I see them but I'm currently always alone; perhaps because they do not know why I am approaching them at first and are very surprised when I start to speak Tagalog. I imagine that when Pia is here and we walk together they may make their assumptions from a distance and look at us differently.
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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I asked a friend who has been here in the UK for 23 years about this. She said she will let me observe and just discover why. I know there are friendly and sensible filipinas out there. We can't generalize it. As what Charlwill had said some might have burden in their lives hence they find it very hard to smile to other fellow filipinas. We don't know what their journey is all about. I've heard about some filipinas comparing what they possess materially and talk about financial situations. Well for me if i meet a person not filipina in particular and imitates or copy things which i have then i would let her. It won't bother me because it only means she finds it nice and wants to have the same.
" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
very true...i agree
If they don't hear us talking in tagalog one reason which makes them hesitant to say hi it's because they think the lady is a Thai, Malaysian, Indonesian or Chinese. One lady told me she was hesitant to say hi she thought i was an Indonesian. One lady which was introduced to me by a friend in a wedding said she thought i am a Thai. So we just have to think that perhaps those are some of the reasons.
" The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "
Very true and I agree with you, Shelly. But then, there are some that they're obvious that they are a flipina but they choose to ignore somebody who is a filipina. Oh well, that's life!If they don't hear us talking in tagalog one reason which makes them hesitant to say hi it's because they think the lady is a Thai, Malaysian, Indonesian or Chinese. One lady told me she was hesitant to say hi she thought i was an Indonesian. One lady which was introduced to me by a friend in a wedding said she thought i am a Thai. So we just have to think that perhaps those are some of the reasons.
There are many reasons why Pinoys are hesitant to mingle with their fellow Pinoys.. some have already been pointed out..
but another possible reason is that some of them have no proper visa and are staying here illegally.. it would suit them not to socialize too much to avoid being detected.. we Filipinos call them TNTs or "Tago-Ng-Tago" (meaning always hiding).. I know someone who lives in London and true enough, she avoids having contact with a lot of people, esp Pinoys..
can't be true to everyone but just sharing an idea..
I have a new friend here in our place and just moved here from Kent. She said she has only few filipino friends and never been friendly with filipina nurses there. They are too snub! One time she went home to Phil and at the airport, there were queue's at heathrow, most are nurses and wives of Brits, One nurse said "paunahin muna mga atchay"
I told my friend if I was there I will answer back and tell them who is really atchay?
I agree, there are really many snubs here and not mingle with fellow filipinosdissapointing
I know a Filipina widow, living in a big house in Australia. She is very friendly and like to talk to all Australians and to all foreigners, but she don't talk to any of her Filipino neighbors.
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ManilaDavid
paunahin muna mga atchay?I have a new friend here in our place and just moved here from Kent. She said she has only few filipino friends and never been friendly with filipina nurses there. They are too snub! One time she went home to Phil and at the airport, there were queue's at heathrow, most are nurses and wives of Brits, One nurse said "paunahin muna mga atchay"
I told my friend if I was there I will answer back and tell them who is really atchay?
I agree, there are really many snubs here and not mingle with fellow filipinos
ATCHAY meaning housemaid or servant lol
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