Hi,
Most of the British men I have met personally have "quietly" told me that the amount of remittance sent by their respective wives is causing problems in their marriages.
I know of two couples who are having big problems because of this:
One Filipina is going to the Citizen's Advice Bureau because of the many problems brought on by the original remittance problem whilst her husband is sleeping in a different room.
Both sides of the story are:
"How can he tell me what to do with my money, I work hard for it"
and
"We are struggling to pay our bills and she still sends too much back home"
Reading posts in an American forum, it seems that this is an extremely delicate issue.
Solutions seem to vary from "don't let her send anything right from the start" to "I trust my wife's control and understanding of money and let her be the judge".
I am not married yet but would like to get a little more insight from members of this forum as to the best way to handle this issue.
Should an amount to be sent back to Phils be discussed before marriage so as not to have problems later?
I know this is an emotive subject and some whose spouse also reads and posts here may be less inclined to divulge thoughts for fear of a sharp knife or a long tampo....
