Well I got all of your messages and what great advice. Thank you for taking time to write and help me everyone is right though and things are already changing. I went out with him that night and we fell out. We never fight or anything like that but after him getting a bit annoyed at me because I was being 'off' all night he had a go. So...I did too and it ALL came out. By the end of it I got a taxi home. He did not argue with me but he did not comfort me either. After this night I have been thinking and got all your messages. You are right, he IS taking me for granted and prioritising his fun b4 me and right NOW would be a good time to make up for missing our important days. On sunday I told him we needed to talk and later phoned. He asked what is was and I told him I was unhappy. I was ready to kick the ball in his court right there and give him a week to decided if he was WITH me or not, if he still was the same then I would have to end it. Anyway he stopped me at "i'm not happy" and told me that he knew and he wants to make things better so I am happy. That paintball is an activity he enjoys but it will not interfere with 'US'. He isn't much of a talker so I was in shock, THEN suggested we go out this week, any day I want, suggested movies or walk on beach or drive. I'm still in shock as was expecting the worst. Anyway thursday is the day so we will see how it goes. I don't know how or why things finaly got through to him but they did. I'm being weary though and have kept my distance almost 2 weeks just incase. I will let you know how it goes, but thank you all again xxx