Hi Tim,
Sorry to hear about the trouble you've had, I hope things will be more in your favour soon.
Like Keith, I would advise against trying to "buy" a visa, its risky to say the least, and I'm sure you don't want to get conned again.
To me, it looks as if you are fast running out of options, and this is what I would do if I was in the same boat - you may not like it, but here goes:
You say you have no-one that can help you here in the UK and your family have more or less said "You are on your own". Well, this will be difficult, but try to talk to them, and make them understand that you and Judith are madly in love and there is nothing they can do to change that, and they will have to accept it. I experienced something like that when I married Elsa in the Philippines, but once they found out what a loving warm person she was, everything was fine.
As Keith states, you are unlikely to get a visa if you have no job in the UK, so I can see in this situation there will have to be a period of seperation whilst you return to the UK, get a job and some money, then apply for a visa a few months down the line. I know this is not what you want, but I can see no other easy way out.
I hope everything turns out fine, let us know what happens.
All the best.
