Can anyone please help the new lovestruck guy?

[walesrob]

Hi Tim,

Sorry to hear about the trouble you've had, I hope things will be more in your favour soon.

Like Keith, I would advise against trying to "buy" a visa, its risky to say the least, and I'm sure you don't want to get conned again.

To me, it looks as if you are fast running out of options, and this is what I would do if I was in the same boat - you may not like it, but here goes:

You say you have no-one that can help you here in the UK and your family have more or less said "You are on your own". Well, this will be difficult, but try to talk to them, and make them understand that you and Judith are madly in love and there is nothing they can do to change that, and they will have to accept it. I experienced something like that when I married Elsa in the Philippines, but once they found out what a loving warm person she was, everything was fine.

As Keith states, you are unlikely to get a visa if you have no job in the UK, so I can see in this situation there will have to be a period of seperation whilst you return to the UK, get a job and some money, then apply for a visa a few months down the line. I know this is not what you want, but I can see no other easy way out.

I hope everything turns out fine, let us know what happens.

All the best.

[fontain]

Hi Mate,

Just read the whole post, wow thats a story and a half
Puts most most peoples gripes in to perspective.

Cant offer you much advice thats already been said, but I would say that you should listen to the guys on here and defo not bother trying to get a moody visa out there, you would most likely get knocked and the fact we all have been made to jump through hoops should tell you that you have no chance of getting through the back door.

As hard as it will be to leave her for a while, I think you should come back here and earn some decent money and then either try to get them a visa or go back and use it to set yourself up as you first planned, but this time please please be more careful.

Good luck, I wish you well

[eljean]

i wonder were all the money gone? and why is your partner not even bother to look after it????

[baboyako]

I wouldn't trust my own parents with two grand. let alone anyone else's... I think you've only got yourself to blame there.

Filipinos are famous for indefinite IOUs in my experience. I don't have too great an issue with a 2000 or 4000 peso iou that I'll never see again simply because they become too afraid to ask for another one