Worried!...Andy17

[lavander]

Hi,

i just came back here at singapore from my biz trip to germany...though we (me and andy17) keep in constant contact while am on germanythrough phone call and chat, my worries begin to hit me and making me feel uncomfortable when i havent heard from him since May 1....the last message i got from him was last april 30 when he was boarded his plane bound to HK for a wk of biz trip....

even keeping my mind that he was just busy and prefer not to be distract, still this bothers me the past nights of not knowing if he is really ok and fine whereever he is...i tried to call him,sent him message through his phone and email but i got no response or anything at all...and this is not the typical andy17 i have known...

i hope through this channel, someone can rely this message to him andy17 that am so worried of not knowing how he is....i tried to call his mobile no but its just the answering machine that prompting me...
as far as i know,we dont have any misunderstanding nor any miscommunication at all and we're going smoothly in the stage of getting to know more each other on the serious note...

am really lost here...its just that am only after to know if he is ok or not..we dont have to talk if he prefer to but atleast for my peace of my sake and to ease my worries...hope someone can rely this to andy17...




@andy17 no idea whats going on there with you, but i hope you will not take this step of me posting message looking for you on this forum on a wrong way...you really making worried and this is the only channel that i think i have better chance to let this message get to you..whatever it is....am just hoping you are doing well!
this worries keeping me insane, that i hope history won't repeat itself and not with you ...PLS!



lavander...:k

[kimmi]

I am worried now too..

[keithAngel]

Speaking personally Lavender When I'm in business mode on the other end of a 30 hour day travelling through 5-6 time zones I can get completely out of sinc and forget every thing else especially when I omitted my phone charger and cant remember my web mail password .

But thats just me Men are from Mars dont forget and worrying Venusians dont always occur to us hope you feel reassured or enjoy your worry

[lavander]

Speaking personally Lavender When I'm in business mode on the other end of a 30 hour day travelling through 5-6 time zones I can get completely out of sinc and forget every thing else especially when I omitted my phone charger and cant remember my web mail password .

But thats just me Men are from Mars dont forget and worrying Venusians dont always occur to us hope you feel reassured or enjoy your worry

Thanks KeithAngel, i just hope this is the case and no other things...its just my mind is preoccupied of so many not so good thoughts!... :(


hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....

[keithAngel]

The mind tends to show us our own projections both positive and negative neither of these are balanced and tend to try to become balanced by swinging to one from the other.

Tr"us"t everthing is ok and you can laugh or cry when needed. Remember you both chose to experience this time I find these moments can be very rewarding although at the time they feel uncomfortable.

Best Wishes

[kimmi]

The mind tends to show us our own projections both positive and negative neither of these are balanced and tend to become balanced by swinging to one from the other.

Tr"us"t everthing is ok and you can laugh or cry when needed. Remember you both chose to experience this time I find these moments can be very rewarding although at the time they feel uncomfortable.

Best Wishes

very well said, Keith ur really such an angel he he he

[keithAngel]

Seem to have got stuck on this thread its real time heh lets all stay here till Andy gets in touch

[andypaul]

I hope all is ok.

Could just be he forgot the charger for his phone i know i have done silly things like that.

Hopefully you hear from him soon.

[keithAngel]

I hope all is ok.

Could just be he forgot the charger for his phone i know i have done silly things like that.

Hopefully you hear from him soon.

Great minds andy

[andypaul]

Great minds andy

great forgetful minds

[lavander]

Hopefully you hear from him soon.

Hi AndyPaul...am really hoping Andy17 will do soon!!!...its a mixed emotion of missing him so much and not entertaining negative thoughts on the same time.... a bit of challenge to take but i know its worth it...


as for now, i just want to know if he is ok..thats all...not too much to ask i guess....


thanks...i feel a bit relief getting some positive reply on this forum...



lavander....

[joebloggs]

the chances of anything happening to him would be really small

like other posters have said his battery could be dead, no charger, he could have lost his mobile or someone could have stole it

good chances are there is a simple explanation ..


99% of things you worry about never happen, so take it easy

[lavander]

the chances of anything happening to him would be really small

like other posters have said his battery could be dead, no charger, he could have lost his mobile or someone could have stole it

good chances are there is a simple explanation ..


99% of things you worry about never happen, so take it easy

Million Thanks JoeBloggs.... a bit relief again...i always keep my mobile under my pillow and keep my laptopn open 24hrs as to keep me wake up easy if got any response from him...i know its only whats going on my mind that drives me insane but reading reply such this from you and the rest of the member here at forum help to ease this unpleasant/nonsense anxiety....
will see...


nevertheless..thanks for the advise...


lavander!

[kimmi]

Give him the benefit of the doubt sis..listen to what some of our mates have said here..

who knows he just wanted you to miss him...he he he

[lavander]

Give him the benefit of the doubt sis..listen to what some of our mates have said here..

who knows he just wanted you to miss him...he he he

Hi Sis, well if this is the case, Andy17 is definitely doing a good job then...
Missing him like crazy and big time...!

Am just thinking he was check in /staying in a hotel cave where no signal and internet is available... so no connection to outside world...
just to keep me at peace...


Lavander

[Piamed]

Hi lavander

Last week I did 7 flights across 3 time zones and neglected to call my mum, who I call every day. I called the wife but don't tell mum.

Anyway, it happens, when you have meetings at what your body is telling you is 3am etc. Then I could not access my email cause only GSM was available in certain locations rather than GPRS.

Additionally, I could not access my voice mail in certain places as I had forgotten to enable a pin code which I then found out I could only do when home in the UK.

Cut a long story short, stuff like that happens when traveling which I'm sure as a business traveler yourself, you know all about. that's not even taking into account all the corporate entertainment.

As someone said earlier the chances of anything being wrong are extremely unlikely. Just give him a few more days; i'm sure he is just fine and will get in touch soon.

Toks

[KeithD]

Hasn't been on here since end of April.....maybe the pic I sent him of me in a leotard made him ill

[keithAngel]

Hasn't been on here since end of April.....maybe the pic I sent him of me in a leotard made him ill

Still cant change your spots boss!!

[andy17]

Hasn't been on here since end of April.....maybe the pic I sent him of me in a leotard made him ill

HELLOOOOO!!!!! I'm BACK!

Win2Win - I missed the leotard pic... but don't worry, I have a good imagination! I must get mine out again and see if it still fits me

EVERYONE: Thanks for giving your kind support to Lavander... I can see from her posts that she was going crazy without word from me (as I was without being able to chat to her)
To cut a long story short, it was a visit to Japan not China (that trip's in June) and although my Blackberry works perfectly when I'm on business all over the place, China, USA, Canada - even Lancashire... when I arrived in Japan... no signal at all! I tried a phonecard at the JR station before going to the Ryokan in Hakone but I couldnt get it to work (probably rushing too much before I boarded the Shinkansen to Hakone. The Ryokan guest house had no internet or guest phones (really basic and rustic place) and the same at the one in Kyoto!
Sooooo, anyway, one week, no e-mails, no phonecalls from the office and most of all, no Lavander to talk to!
My first internet point was at the Kyoto Westin on my last night there so I had a quick look here and send Lavander a note to explain.
I've just got back home this evening and logged on right away to drop an explanation note (Lavander tipped me off that I should take a look at the forum)
Lavander - a big hug and a shy apology for not being better prepared for my trip - at least I know for next time!
THANKS EVERYONE!

[KeithD]

How did you know it was a spotted leotard???

[Peanutz]

I don't want to be a kill joy...but when I have a feeling that something is not right, I have to see clear from it.

Andy17 has not made any contact since April 30? And today is May 5?
Now, don't tell me wherever he is there is no means to make a call or any contact?
I know this doesn't help you ease your worries Lavander, it is always better to be prepared for the worse scenario....

[keithAngel]

I don't want to be a kill joy...but when I have a feeling that something is not right, I have to see clear from it.

Andy17 has not made any contact since April 30? And today is May 5?
Now, don't tell me wherever he is there is no means to make a call or any contact?
I know this doesn't help you ease your worries Lavander, it is always better to be prepared for the worse scenario....

My goldfish has a brain but intelligence comes from the heart

[lavander]

I don't want to be a kill joy...but when I have a feeling that something is not right, I have to see clear from it.

Andy17 has not made any contact since April 30? And today is May 5?
Now, don't tell me wherever he is there is no means to make a call or any contact?
I know this doesn't help you ease your worries Lavander, it is always better to be prepared for the worse scenario....

Hi Peanutz, yes, i know what you're trying to say..Be realistic of what can possibly could happen..i can understand this...i was in this situation long before i knew andy17 and the worst had happened......and this intuition keeping me hell out of my insanity knowing the fact the possibility of history might happen again...i just hope not with andy17 not with anyone.....as i dont want to go in to that process again!!!

I really don't want!....


Lavander

[alicat]

finger crossed

[scott&ligaya]

Hi Lavander,
what does Andy do, if like me he is procurment he may well be blasting round southern china on as many factory visits as possibe in the short time available, that being said even with dodgy dial up connections in dingy chinese hotels in the middle of nowhere he should be able to get a message to you to say hello.
It is possible that as you guys are very new to each other that he is just a stupid man like many of us and does not realise how much you are already smitten and feels it is okay to leave things for a week. As someone said men are from mars!!!. i do hope all is okay and you post here soon with good news

[Mich]

Relax, he will contact you. Im sure he has reasons for not calling/texting/emailing.

[lavander]

Hi Lavander,
what does Andy do, if like me he is procurment he may well be blasting round southern china on as many factory visits as possibe in the short time available, that being said even with dodgy dial up connections in dingy chinese hotels in the middle of nowhere he should be able to get a message to you to say hello.
It is possible that as you guys are very new to each other that he is just a stupid man like many of us and does not realise how much you are already smitten and feels it is okay to leave things for a week. As someone said men are from mars!!!. i do hope all is okay and you post here soon with good news

thanks scott&ligaya, bit of relief..am after more of knowing his situation and not because of the thinking his runnings mile away from me...thanks though...

[KeithD]

If you want my opinion......You appear to be moving at warp speed, especially after your last experience, did you learn nothing?

Guys seldom work that fast, especially if we are used to single life, you may have even frightened him!!

Guys work in two modes....
a) Pals......friends......best mates.....relationship....
or
b) Lots of drink, then the 4 F's....
Find'em, Feel'em, F'em, Forget'em

[joebloggs]

b) Lots of drink, then the 4 F's....
Find'em, Feel'em, F'em, Forget'em

Liverpool city of culture 2008

[Piamed]

Liverpool city of culture 2008