to sphinx...:
I am so sorry to hear all the troubles u had with ur husband...for us all to know it is only just part of a marriage life, just don't be too rush into things that u aren't sure yet to take into actions....what i mean is be considerate for whatever pain involves, u might get sick of forgiving him but that is what a husband/wife should be, u shouldn't count how much u forgive him but be thankful instead that you still be able to manage the difficulties whenever u have that kind of pain for today and for the years to come . Yeah maybe for now you feel bad for all you thought that you never feel any LOVE at all at any moment that he started to act like a ..... (forgive me to use this one)...if u kinda feel right then you are absolutely in a good position to leave him all for good. but so kinda bad if you just feel right those things for now and yet tomorow when hes gone you miss him terribly bad and u need to turn back things....so be sure first before you take any further actions that would definitely change your whole life.....
I guess all married people experiencing the same thing its only up to you guys on how to deal with,..I myself accept that me and my husband do have an arguments as well, in any terms of it doesnt matter...no matter how lil/big is.....it won't be enough to weight things that we consider "it depends"...as its only a matter of love, understanding and respect both ways.....if u both have those everything would fall into place....so try to talk him heart to heart....try to open all your heartaches and pains in whatever by means....point it all out to him and maybe he could understand even not all but at least some of...so by that he will definitely try to change his ways that makes u feel bad about ...and so as try to ask him if you did something wrong even if u are fairly sure u have done nothing wrong at all. (who knows!) ye with regards to my own i often ask my husband if i did something wrong in every moment that i feel something sounds fishy in between ...Maybe just lack of understanding towards things...so go on...talk to him heart to heart....be gentle and polite in all words that u have to ask but of course you have to take ur pride off and accept that we all not perfect and you do as well committed any mistakes or if u can't try to send him an email (even if you already living together as one )and point it all out in details..opssss in a calm way....okay good luck girl......try those simple steps..
In my own case...if ever we have any lil misunderstanding happen or if do feel something bad, mad, upset or whatever i just tried to keep my mouth shut first, not even mentioning whats going up , but we never yelled out no matter how bad we feel....we just give a lil space for each until we are ready to confront whats goin on...until such then that I am ready to face the consequences ....i do have tell him what makes me feel bad and so as he is...of course you both should learn to say SORRY after all and willing to accept your faults and weaknesses.....and then at any moment to satisfy my peace of mind i do have to send him an email and understand him all as why i acted that way and hope no matter what happen we still keep the LOVE alive....of course he will do same thing as....everything goin smooth after all...
i havent seen any reasons yet for you give up the marriage .....
