One should not be quick to jump to conclusions without knowing the full story,
1. Mick has not made clear in his post the duration of lack of contact.
2. There are many missing peices to this jigsaw puzzle, that may not be immediately apparent.
3. Mick might have left certain things out which led him to not quite be so surprised of her alledged behaviour.
Very often when i see these stories posted on the forum, I always try and take a balanced view, in my experience of dealing with long distance relationships akin a marriage taking place in the Philippines, one always seems to find that all the tell tale signs are visible if only we would care to notice them.
Contact with a Filipina in Philippines that leads to a courtship and even then a marriage is at best a long odds gamble, just because there are thousands of happy endings, doesnt mean every one will be, there could be lots of reasons why Mick may feel his situation is going pear shaped.
The motives of the girl, coupled with the expectations and what may be considered to be reasonable requests, may not always fit the expectations of this young lady.
Each party to the relationship has a motive and needs when it comes to deciding on embarking on this quest, many reasons for sudden behavioural changes such as not being contactable, or turning cold, and other behavioural types are often associated with needs not being met.
For example, the British man has a set of needs he wishes to be fulfilled, fore example.
1. Wants a companion, or comfort woman.
2. Wants a wife, companionship, friendship, lover, to share his life, in his country, in his culture.
She may have a differing set of needs such as.
1. Financial security through marriage to a foreigner.
2. Financial security for her siblings, family, parents, etc etc.
One has to be honest about each others needs, and when those needs do not seem to be fulfilled, then problems arise, its so easy for people to be out of contact all of a sudden, such as "Her phone is switched off" thats so easy to enact, when one wants to be anonymous, its easy to achieve.
Then the family doesn't know where she is - of course this is all a fabrication, the family knows full well where the girl is, they are almost likely to be in on the situation, its unlikely that a young girl's family are not knowing her whereabouts.
Generally when these situations arise, its because one party has suddenly noticed a deficiency in their needs, and if these are not being met, or they think they wont be met, they suddenly become, non contactable, or show odd behavioural traits.
I wish Mick well, but cannot help feeling, there is a little more to this story than he is letting on.
Opinions can only be formed from the facts placed before them in a short story, only him and this girl, know what is the real story.
They are the best ones then to sort it out.
