As there is no definite info and conjecture is rife I will include this thought
You mention she had a row with her father, and that he had agreed to you as a suitable husband...what if
A/ her father has put her under pressure to ask you for something and she has declined and feels unable to talk to you about it
B/ there is a big demand coming soon when you are suitably stressed and happy to do anything to make things "right" for your honey with her family
Hope neither of these are true but scams rely on the creation and manipulation of emotional states
