Thanks for the advice so far. Keep it coming folks.
I know for a fact that that statement is wrong! I know people who have felt their partner was not straight and she actually was. The fact is that sometimes things don't seem kosher but they are. sometimes things seem kosher but they aren't.If something does not seem kosha, then normally it isnt
As for Mae being dishonest about being married - someone told her to do it. A few weeks later she plucked up the courage to tell me and fully expected me to dump her, as 90% of men problably would have done.
On the anullment, yes, I will wait a bit. But I have looked into it in great detail. We will not be paying all of the money up front. The lawyer is saying all the right things and being very honest as far as I can tell.
My previous marriage breakdowns were nothing to do with dishonesty or cheating. Just one of those things (or two). I really feel that Mae and I will be great together. But I am not blindly in love - just trying to be very very careful.
As for 15,000 pesetas. Her room rent is 4,000 and bills right now are pretty high, as you all know. She used to share bills with her cousin who went down to Manila to get a job.
All in all I feel I should not panic, just wait. However, I am in no hurry to rush out to the Philippines. Thailand in August will do nicely!
