This is my first ever message
IanB, Don't forget that if you marry this girl you will be marrying her family too. So it is absolutely essential that you meet her on her home ground. That way you will know for sure if something is wrong, either by conversations with others around her or events that take place while you are there. It will also give you a chance to understand her background and culture. If she tries to put you off that idea, then she clearly has something to hide. Don't think it might be a wasted journey. It won't. I met my wife only six weeks after we started chatting, but I told myself that if things didn't work out, then it would be a great holiday in any event. And of course, if things don't go as planned, you won't have to travel far or wait for long for someone else to come into your life. If you go without commitment at stage the trip is bound to be a success. And by the way, a filipino can easily manage on 5000 pesos per month. 4,000 is way over the top for lodgings. So take the advice Ian. Go to the Philippines, and don't even THINK of meeting in Thailand.
